"Vicente's best man I've got," says Sean, a CEO, “but when he attends a meeting, it turns into a circus. Hands flying all over place, dramatic gestures, throwing papers around when he gets mad, storming out of room with a toss of that beautiful head. He knows he’s a show. It's hard for me to keep group focused. It’s disruptive.”

"All world's a stage" to Drama Queen (or King). They seem to experience life in technicolor, while others see it in black and white.

They demand attention, are comfortable with commotion, full or energy (mental, physical and emotional), and are often crisis-magnets. They can drain your energy.

It's hard to get them to focus. Following their train of thought or emotions is like following a bouncing ball. (Do you want to be in this position? No, you do not.) They perceive things to be very exciting and have trouble screening out “external stimuli.”

If you don’t position yourself correctly, you’ll just be one of many things they’re attempting to attend to. They are prone to exaggerate, and are especially difficult for left-brained people who think in a linear, analytic way.

Asking them to “calm down” rarely works, because to their mind, you should “rev up.” So here are some ways to avoid being just their audience (and worn out at same time).

1. USE LIGHT, MINIMAL EYE CONTACT.

In a one-to-one situation, avoid anything that puts you in place of being a perceive audience. Likewise, if you stare at display of tension-release (hands waving, knees bouncing, nail biting) you'll become affected. Eyes “focus” us and you want to direct focus. Look at some other part of their face (not into their eyes) or off to side. Better yet, have a written agenda and put it in front of you on desk and focus on that. Actually point at it with your finger. You want focus off YOU, or THEM, and onto SUBJECT and you do this by dealing with a concrete object that represents task, i.e., piece of paper.

2. USE NONVERBAL PACIFYING MEASURES.

She’s losing weight and sprucing up her appearance. New hairstyle, nails, new clothes. Changes in her style of dress. She's dressing to please another man, or he's buying her new things. Also new lingerie you don't get to see on her, but it's in drawer or laundry hamper.

2. Bigger phone bills (cell and landline), odd phone calls.

The phone rings at odd times. When you answer, they hang up. Of she disappears outside with cell, saying she’s taking out garbage or something.

3. She's become distant, talking less, and not interested in things like she was before.

She’s lax about your comings and goings. She doesn’t care what you’re up to any more. You have less arguments. In this case, less “nagging” is not a good sign. Now she sticks remote in your hand and tells you to go for it (and then leaves or gets on phone or Internet).

4. She suddenly has to work late and weekends all time.