What I have come to know in my own life and, in working with others, is that our thoughts create our realities. In order to change your life you must begin to be aware of and change your thoughts. If your thoughts are not helping you or "working for you" then it's time to let them go like leaves in wind.

When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for future. Then, down road, comes exclamation ‘If I had only known...’. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men in field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to very start of relationship.

Here are some ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.

1)He makes decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.

2)He belittles your opinion when two of you are alone and may call you names.

3)He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk about you as if you were not there.

4)He may be rough during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not like.

5)He does not want to spend time with your friends or family and insists you socialize with his people.