Can This Relationship Be Helped?Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Can This Relationship Be Helped? Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 738 Category: Relationships CAN THIS RELATIONSHIP BE HELPED? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What are their chances of saving their relationship? Since two people always get together at their common level of woundedness, here is what I say to partner who has sought my help: "As long as you choose to remain in this relationship, there are things for you to learn. Each partner contributes their 100% to relationship. While it is often easy to see what your partner is doing that is harmful to relationship, it is often difficult to see what you are doing. Yet until you learn about your part in this relationship system, you will take your own dysfunctional behavior with you into another relationship. It’s generally a waste of time - unless there is physical abuse - to leave a relationship before healing your own end of system. The time to leave is when you have learned to make yourself happy regardless of what your mate is doing. When you learn to take 100% responsibility for your own feelings and needs, and if your partner is still behaving in ways that are unacceptable to you, then it’s time to leave. You need to discover how to respond to your partner in ways that are loving to yourself and that support your own joy and highest good." When partner who is available to counseling does his or her inner work, one of two things happen. Either other partner likes what is happening and becomes more open, or relationship becomes more distant and difficult. I tell my clients that it is a 50-50 deal - half time things get better and half time they get worse. They need to be okay with either outcome. If fact, I encourage them to let go of outcome and just be in process of learning how to take loving care of themselves.
| | What is Reiki?Written by Pamir Kiciman
The question is an intellectual one. Our conditioning always looks for quantifiable evidence. Yet given nature of Reiki and priorities as well as capabilities of today's science this evidence is scarce. Another type of evidence, however, is emerging and establishing itself. This is testimony of human experience, echoed down ages, which is boldly changing our thinking and being. Fundamental ideas about health and well-being are being transformed as a direct result of reigning mechanistic model of reality. This model, of which allopathic medicine is one segment, views health as absence of disease in body and mind; a static state that limits definition of health. Health is a dynamic state involving our whole being. By missing forest for trees, our healthcare system has exacerbated our psychophysical challenges, which are formidable in this increasingly complex and toxic world. Enter Reiki. A healing system that is humanity's heritage, and has worked in same way through ages; balancing of our individual life force through contact with universal life force. Science has been unable or perhaps unwilling to measure this pervasive energy, but we experience it every moment and everywhere. Every physiological function, all of nature, and even mind is alive because of subtle life force. Reiki is a simple treatment that restores homeostasis to body; equilibrium to mind; and fulfillment to soul. It is applied with hands in a certain sequence, without pressure or manipulation. No special skill or complicated technique is required. The practitioner is attuned by a qualified teacher and so becomes a conduit for universal life force. The recipient draws needed energy without effort. To be able to enliven all of creation, universal energy has to be intelligent. Since it permeates body, body also has innate intelligence, and cells contain individual life force. When universal and individual resonate during a Reiki session, there is a reorganization leading to optimal health on all levels.
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