Are You Having School Daze?Written by Susan Dunn, MA, EQ Coach
All around country along about now, kids are going back to school. While it’s primarily their event, it impacts whole family, as everyone adjusts to new schedules and routines. As you maneuver your way through this yearly adjustment, here are some tips to keep in mind. WHEN TO LOOSEN UP, WHEN TO TIGHTEN UP Establish new routines consistently and firmly. Go over new organization that’s required – preparing for school night before (clothes and supplies organized and ready to go for next day), a sensible bed time, getting up on time, cleaning teeth, getting dressed and eating a good breakfast, and being ready for transportation on time. At same time, relax about other things not so important. Remember that your child is under stress, adjusting to a new routine, new teacher, new classmates and classroom, and perhaps even a new school. You can let up on some things for time being, such as keeping their room spit-spot, and squabbling with siblings. Expect some regression in behavior. That’s what we do under stress (and you may be doing it as well!). Your child may be a little more on edge than usual and more emotionally reactive. That’s why being firm about new routines are important. Allow for outbursts, remaining calm yourself. They will also be picking up some new habits. Who among us hasn’t had their child return home from school first day with a lovely new word you can’t believe they learned, and never want to hear again. Go back over rules of road for your household, and fact that “Freddy does it so I can too,” doesn’t compute. My mother used to say “If Freddy sat on a hot stove, would you?” (Eventually I figured out meaning of this metaphor!)
| | "Why Do Some Affirmations *Work* - and Others Don't?"Written by jeff staniforth
By definition,an affirmation is a statement repeated time and again either verbally or mentally-or written down. The words of affirmation statement - in themselves -when spoken, thought of, or written *without* a pictorial (visualized) or emotional connection- make a very weak affirmation.Affirmations, when worded correctly -- and when emotionally charged - are able to tap into unlimited creative power of your subconscious mind, and manifest your desires. Affirmations are not all created equal. Some are, of course, better than others. When you examine structure of these power affirmations, you, too, can learn how to create your own powerful affirmations for your specific purposes. Consider these: "I am what I choose to be." "All my needs are met instantaneously." "I love and accept myself exactly as I am." "_____________ comes to me easily and effortlessly." (Fill in blank with what you desire.) "I am now perfectly healthy in body, mind and spirit." "I now create my wonderful, ideal life." What do above power affirmations have in common? 1) They're stated in present tense. An affirmation is more effective when stated in present tense. For example;"I now have a wonderful job." Avoid affirming something in future tense, e.g."I am going to have a wonderful job" or results will always be waiting to happen. 2) They express a positive statement. Affirmations need to be stated in most positive terms possible. Avoid negative statements. Affirm what you do want, rather than what you don't want. For example:"I am no longer sick." This is a negative statement. Instead, affirm: :"I am now perfectly healthy in body, mind and spirit." This statement is much more powerful as it is positive and reinforces your desired goal and doesn't confuse your subconscious mind with mention of undesirable condition. 3) They're short and specific. Short affirmations have a far greater impact at subconscious level than those which are long and wordy. Keeping them specific and to point adds power as idea is uncluttered by extraneous elements. The mechanics that make affirmations powerful are: * Repetition The importance of repetition cannot be overemphasized. It imprints affirmation into your subconscious mind. *Emotions Get involved, be passionate, and use your emotions. Think carefully about meaning of words as you repeat them rather than just writing, typing or saying them.
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