2 If you say that someone has attitude, you mean that they are confident and independent, often in a rude or unpleasant way. All of us have been following a set of attitudes we learned in our lifetime through our own experiences and those of others. Some of them are positive ....helps us to live our lives to fullest-enjoying every moment. There are other attitudes which make our lives and that of others miserable - harming ourselves or others around us. There are a few other attitudes in life which are neither negative nor positive......but can be put under category - General - living our lives way we have been and living and doing nothing to progress in life - in our careers, our relationships, our physical, mental or spiritual aspects of life. Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thoughts, and habits can be acquired. An action repeated becomes an attitude realized.--Paul Myer (in Developing Leader Within You by Maxwell) The essence of Life as human beings is progress.....One thing all of us have to understand clearly is that if in any way we want to improve our lives -want more money, bigger house, smaller cell phones, have good health, recover from our addictions-if any, looking for "peace within", serenity and contended life, we have to work on ourselves to change for better. There are no two ways about it. "Changing our attitudes will definitely change our altitudes" But problem is that many of us are not ready to change.....we fear change....Friends "pain doesn't come from change ....it comes from resistance to change" Here are a few “action steps” which will help you to work on "Change of Attitude" Process. Try to work on it honestly and thoroughly. After all it is your life which can improve for better.

First of all, do a little self searching exercise. You can ask yourself these questions: a) Am I happy with growth at my work. b)Am I having a loving and understanding relationship with my wife/husband/partner or parents or children?

c) Do others treat me way I want them to treat me? d) Am I grateful for whatever I have today? e) Do I believe that "my feelings are results of my thoughts" can I can change myself to think differently to feel and act differently.

Nations do that, too, on a larger scale; Israelis attack Palestinians in retaliation for a Palestinian attack which was revenge for an Israeli attack, which was payback for a Palestinian reprisal, which was...You see where this is going.

We read about similar escalations frequently; perhaps you’ve been a party to an extended personal battle with someone. If so, who won? Not who was last person standing, but who benefited and who lost as a result of payback cycle?

No one won, if definition of to win is to feel joy, peace, calm, or any loving emotion. The best we can feel while participating in a continuing cycle of payback is a brief touch of self-satisfaction-nothing like joy. To feel any of strongly positive emotions requires forgiveness.

What does it mean to forgive? We usually think of forgiveness as a generous act which pardons another person for wrongdoing. In this context, forgiveness is directed toward another, as in "I forgive you for saying hurtful things to me yesterday." The forgiver then feels magnanimous having granted a pardon to sinner. Often we forgive only after sinner has contritely apologized; sometimes we forgive expecting apology.