You Made A Mistake? Way To Go!Written by Rosella Aranda
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actuality, you're only one you have to reckon with here. ALLOW ME TO ILLUSTRATE... Several years ago, I bought myself a piano. This was a glorious treat for me. I was living in my own place, no family, no roomies, no boyfriends, nobody but me and my beloved piano. (And a couple of pussy cats but they didn't care how I played as long as I kept food coming!) Now I could play to my heart's content without any unwanted listeners lurking about. However, every time I sat down at keyboard, room "filled up" with this invisible audience, ghostly faces ready to wince at any sour note or fumbled chord. I was playing for my ego, trying to win approval of these phantom ears floating about my music room. And of course, true music got lost in deal. Is this anything like what happens to you when you try something new? Are there invisible critics watching over your shoulder, interfering with your concentration? It doesn't seem to matter what type of new activity we wish to undertake. It could be something as simple as learning a new software program or something as ambitious as tackling a bold new approach to earning a fabulous living. Is it possible that actual goal has gotten lost in melee of ego and fear of not getting it right first time? Does idea of not having a completed blueprint of your journey prevent you from taking first step? BRAVO FOR BLUNDERS Here's a technique, seemingly simple and silly, but very effective just same in combatting this tendency to stay stuck in our well-worn rut. When you become aware of any mistake or misstep you have made, respond to it in this radically different way. PRAISE yourself for discovering something that did not work. That's right, be glad! Acknowledge that you are now one step closer to finding solution you are after. Yessss! Now for really important part. Be certain to acknowledge to yourself, preferably out loud, that by making mistake at hand you did NOT suddenly become stupid, puny or otherwise diminished. Make note of fact that you are every bit as solid a person as you were before mistake, and that you are now a tad wiser besides. That's it. But do it. The only way you'll ever learn to feel differently about yourself is to start feeling differently about yourself. You and only you control what you think. Think well of yourself.
Rosella Aranda, marketer and writer, helps entrepreneurs change their thinking and escape limitations permanently. http://www.FromThoughtsToRiches.com/ Now on Audio. http://www.FinancialFreedomWorld.com/ Top Tools! http://www.SabotageThyselfNoMore.com/ Free mini-course.
What Forgiveness Is NotWritten by Rosella Aranda
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- Mourning your loss. (Sadness, unlike depression, is a healing force and it will pass.) - Forgiving your transgressor. - Experiencing a new vitality as you reclaim formerly disowned parts of your being. Important: You don’t need to confront anyone or involve anyone else in this process. This is done in privacy and purely for your own release and relief. Some people try to dismiss need for this process by saying such things as, “Well, it doesn’t matter now. That was so long ago.” Or maybe, “Things were different back in old country. None of that makes any difference anymore.” When dealing with profound harm sustained in past, we need to be aware of inconsequential nature of distance and time. In other words, a serious emotional injury sustained long ago and maybe even far away does NOT just wither away into nothingness if you ignore it. The damage is very real and it has serious ongoing repercussions if it is not squarely faced and dealt with. People fear that acknowledging great harm done will unleash hateful and violent acts. Quite contrary. It is these “unconscious grudges” that we carry in our hearts that result in cruelty. Often this escapes our conscious awareness. It is also these unacknowledged wounds, waiting like frightened children at “Lost and Found” that result in depression. It takes tremendous psychic energy to keep stuffing those strong, raw emotions down and keep them in check, especially when we’re not even aware of exactly what it is we are hiding from! I would like to stress once again, suppressed pain and stifled anger will not go away just because you ignore them. They will dissipate only in face of acknowledgement. By following steps outlined above, you will naturally arrive at a place where you are ready to exercise forgiveness. You will have reached a place where you are sick and tired of wasting mental and psychic energy on nursing painful grudges. You will no longer wish to tolerate any nasty pangs of resentment. It will become unacceptable to send your thoughts into a mental sewer just so that you can keep your offender in his place. An act of pardon will evolve naturally as we honor our true feelings. This does not mean that we have to go and broadcast what we find to world. It simply means that we ourselves have to be willing to look at and see Truth. As a parting note, let us strive to remember that forgiveness is not a self-righteous act of virtue or altruism. It is not cause for arrogance or fanfare or a holier-than-thou attitude. The decision to forgive is supremely practical and self-affirming. Self-affirmation is what people need most. And only we can do this for ourselves.
Rosella Aranda, marketer and writer, helps entrepreneurs change their thinking and escape limitations permanently. http://www.FromThoughtsToRiches.com/ Now on Audio. http://www.SabotageThyselfNoMore.com/ Free mini-course!