But how do we do it?

By thinking consciously out of box. Let us take example of a bad habit. How do you correct a bad habit? Simply by replacing it with a good habit. The action that constitutes good habit is consciously repeated so many times that it becomes ingrained in our sub-conscious mind. Then it becomes a natural good habit.

For example smoking is a bad habit. This can be replaced by good habit of not smoking simply by making a consious effort to overcome urge to smoke. When this is done repeatedly it becomes a habit and urge to smoke is greatly reduced.

There is no reason why anyone should live within self-imposed limitation. Simply by modifying conscious thinking one can change oneself.

First step is to decide where you want to go, what you want to achieve, what you want to become. Decide upon target without worrying about means. Then keep reminding yourself by conscious thinking that you deserve to attain target and that you are going to achieve it.

Call it day dreaming if you like, but it should be done with clear sense of purpose. If done with single-minded intention it has potential of modifying sub-conscious mind. Then impossible happens. Sub-conscious mind again conspires with surroundings to see that new self-image is achieved. Doors suddenly seem to open and new means present themselves. Solutions to problems appear out of nowhere. Actually they were all within you and now they get a chance to surface out because you are seeking them out.

It is essential to keep trying whole-heartedly until goal is reached. Then go for higher goal. By reminding yourself that you deserve to attain goal you gain confidence and work with positive frame of mind. This is a proven formula for success.

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This in turn causes conversation to flow.

2. Give first to encourage sharing.

If all you do is ask questions other person will feel as if they are being interrogated.

That is not idea!

Be prepared to reveal something about yourself first without getting too personal.

By sharing first you are leading way and cause other person to feel obligated to return favor.

Sharing and receiving in this way allows you to take charge of any conversation and to easily lead it where you want to go.

3. Aim to control conversation.

If you can lead a conversation you can control it. You now know how to lead any conversation - give first and watch other person respond.

Most people will follow your lead right away. If person does not just move on to someone else.

Never shoot for 100% with people as its not a realistic goal. Life does not work like that.

And remember...

The key to success with these distinctions is to use them, play with them and then adjust them to suit you.

For sake of 10-15 minutes a day, every day, you can progressively get better and better at making conversation.

Its not rocket science. Its just a matter of strategy - knowing it and using it.