- being abundantly happy

- smiling and genuinely caring about other person

- exuding enthusiasm and excitement

If as you read this you think - hang on, what has this got to do with communication?

It has everything to do with it.

93% of communication is non-verbal. Remember that.

That is why I place so much emphasis on mental and emotional states - if you don´t grasp this, knowing what to say will not matter because you will be gripped by fear, indecision and insecurity.

3 Take Discussion Where You Want it to Go

Many people are far too passive when it comes to making polite conversation.

Why?

Because you have unconscious rules that dictate what is acceptable. You may even have old patterns running in your mind that are no longer appropriate e.g. only speak when spoken to; don´t talk to strangers.

I hereby give you permission to break these rules!

The way to get started with being more adventurous is as follows...

First of all, notice that you have a habit of letting other people dictate flow of conversation.

Then, in a small way start being more proactive and suggest new topics of conversation or new directions to go in.

At this point do not concern yourself with whether or not person you are talking to follows your lead.

Just get comfortable with making suggestions.

If you are already living these principles you are having great success in all your dealings with other people.

If you are not -- you have room to get even better.

Listen!.

I was really not much good at dealing with people until I committed to mastering this crucial life skill.

You can get better and you will when you aim to improve even a little each and every day AND you apply proven techniques.

2 Let Go

Let go of wanting to control opinions of people you deal with no matter how negative they are. By all means talk to negative person and use your persuasion skills to help give them a more positive outlook.

However remember that each of us is entitled to be negative, wrong and inaccurate! Once you accept this you will not get so stressed about wanting to change people who are negative.

And ironically when you stop trying to change people they can almost sense that you accept them and so your words have more impact.

3 Choose to Be Positive

When people around us are negative sometimes easiest thing to do is to join in. You do not have to. If you want to just go ahead.

Otherwise find ways to maintain a positive attitude. Look for positives in situation and point them out to people. Ask yourself how you can use this opportunity to become better.

And refuse to get dragged down by others into murky waters of negativity no matter how bad it gets.

Being positive is a choice even when those around you have slipped into negativity.