At end of committee meeting, experienced chair said, “Oh and one more thing. Pat, I’m putting you in charge of worrying about weather.”

What a freeing statement that was. One big thing for all rest of us to take off our “worry list.” And also a wise and gentle way of saying worry doesn’t do any good. Do what you can, then let it go.

If you think back on it, you’ll probably find you aren’t very good at worrying. It’s never anything we anticipate, and usually something we could never have imagined. The most unlikely things can occur, and, being organized and emotionally intelligent people, we’ve generally attended to things that are likely. I mean we clean out gutters in fall, get shots for dog, rotate tires on car, and eat lots of broccoli.

Beyond that, you probably aren’t a good worrier, and, as I say to my clients, “Do you want to be?” Of course you don’t. Do what you can and then let it go. Focus your time and energy on something else that’s fruitful. Be attentive to what needs to be done, then enjoy moment, and be forgiving of things that happen that are beyond your control or anyone else’s. I think there’s a song called, “Don’t Worry. Be Happy.” This is an emotionally intelligent way of life.

I have found many advantages to Internet. The anonymity of online dating allows you to roll out of bed, hair standing in ten different directions, breath smelling like Boston Harbor at low tide – then click! You stumble on a person you will be dating in a few weeks. The cost compared to going out and searching is next to nothing. You can learn more about a person’s interests to see if they mesh with yours. You do not have to deal with harshness of rejection in person. You have a huge pool of people to explore (remember, 40 million!) from all walks-of-life, people you would never have chance to meet within your neighborhood or small circle of friends.

There is also fraud and deception. You will probably come across a photo that looks eerily like Pamela Anderson – right down to copyright in lower corner. Clients tell me about married people posing as single. Nevertheless, these issues of honesty exist both on and off-line, so do not let that stop you from finding partner you want.

With 43% of U.S. population being single and with so many single clients asking me about Internet dating, I began to put a guide together to help my clients use this service effectively and safely and avoid these pitfalls. I want everyone to find happiness they deserve and want to make this Tool book available to everyone for Free! To get your free E-Book, “Tools To Internet Dating” go to TheRelationshipTools.com and get your copy today.

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Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") has been a public consultant and a private counselor for over 15 years. A Cognitive Therapist, Radio host and Columnist, Devlyn also developed ToolsToLife.com. Devlyn maintains a thriving practice in Hollywood, where he counsels famous actors, musicians and captains of industry. Soon his new book will be available, Relationship Tools. You can hear Coach Steele live every Tuesday on LoveBeat Radio 1310 KXAM.com 7-9 PM. Arizona Time.