What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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Creating a safe enough environment for intimacy to flourish means that each person needs to take 100% responsibility for creating safety within themselves as well as safety withinrepparttar relationship. We do this by practicing acceptance and compassion for ourselves, which will then naturally extend to others.

However,repparttar 130873 moment we are triggered into fear - fear of rejection, of domination, of abandonment, of losing ourselves or losingrepparttar 130874 other - we often do anything but behave in a way that creates inner and relationship safety. We abandon ourselves and become reactive - getting angry, complying, withdrawing, resisting, blaming, defending, explaining, attacking, and so on. None of these behaviors create inner safety, nor do they contribute to relationship safety.

How do we learn to stay connected, open-hearted and non-reactive inrepparttar 130875 face of fear and conflict? The key is to practice staying connected with a source of spiritual guidance (whatever that is for you) during peaceful times, so that whenrepparttar 130876 fear and conflicts arise, you have that source available to you. None of us can stay open by ourselves. David Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., in his book entitled simply "I", states that "The strength ofrepparttar 130877 ego is such that it can be overcome only by spiritual power." When our ego - our wounded self - is activated by fear and conflict, we must be able to turn to a source of spiritual power forrepparttar 130878 strength to not react with our learned defenses.

The more we practice staying connected with our spiritual guidance,repparttar 130879 more we create inner and relationship safety. The safer we feel within ourselves and with our partner,repparttar 130880 freer we feel to share our joy and pain with each other, which is what leads to connection and intimacy. Meditation and prayer are powerful ways of practicing our spiritual connection, as isrepparttar 130881 six step Inner Bonding process that I teach.(see our free course at www.innerbonding.com). Without a daily practice of strengthening your spiritual connection, you may find it very difficult to maintain intimacy inrepparttar 130882 face ofrepparttar 130883 many conflicts that occur in committed relationships.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com


Intuition: Maybe Not Such a "Soft" Skill After All

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, The EQ Coach


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“When you’re working in a high-hazard industry,” she says, “if you go into a work situation, and there’s something coming at you that makes you feel funny - an almost imperceptible smell, a feeling, in an explosive factory it could be a change in humidity - just some change that you sense, rather than see, don’t ignore it. If you get a gut feeling something isn’t right, pay attention to that, act on that. Intuition can be honed by just practicing and noticing.”

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“We help companies move forward and innovate in a time of perpetual change; TOP-SET® is specifically a thinking system, a key to investigating accidents, to solving that particular type of problem. Butrepparttar companies often ask us to assist them in thinking their way through other issues, to help them create, and to innovate.” Lorna says. “We’ve found when a company is honestly investigating an incident, andrepparttar 130872 regulatory bodies are aware of that, then they’re less likely to prosecute. The most important thing, though, is that employees feel valued and cared about when such attention is paid to their safety. And it works. It’s now safer to be on an oil rig than in your own home.”

A practical application for emotional intelligence with many positive outcomes.

©Susan Dunn, http://www.susandunn.cc , The EQ Coach. To learn more about Top-set®/Incident Investigation System, go here: http://www.top-set.com . For free incident/accident investigation advice, go here: http://www.top-set.com/freesadvice.shtml


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