We cannot hide our intent – it will always come through in our energy and our tone of voice. However you might try to mask an intent to control, other will always pick up on it and probably react to it with his or her own controlling behavior.

You are coming from a place of personal power when your intent is to take loving care of yourself rather than control other. Since you cannot ultimately control another, trying to will leave you feeling frustrated and powerless.

The challenging part of this is taking loving action on your own behalf. In order to take loving care of yourself, you need to be willing to let go of outcome regarding how other person will feel and behave. If you are focused on controlling how other person will feel in face of your actions, then you will not be able to take loving action. If your focus is on other person, such as, “He will feel hurt and angry if I leave party,” or “She will be furious with me if I leave without her,” or “He will feel rejected and tell me I am running away from conflict if I leave room when he is critical,” then you will be unable to take loving action.

Only if you are in compassion for yourself will you be able to act on your own behalf. Compassion for yourself means that you are 100% willing to take responsibility for your own feelings rather than trying to get someone else to do it for you, or rather than trying to control another’s feelings. It means that you are willing for other person to be upset with you rather than continue to be treated unkindly.

People tend to mirror how we treat ourselves. If you tolerate unkind treatment, you are letting others know that it is okay to treat you badly. By taking loving care of yourself in face of others’ unkind behavior, you will find that generally others will respect you and treat you well.

Even if you know all there is to know about how to succeed and you have a plan and you know what to do - resistance can keep you from making any progress.

You need to let go of this resistance.

When you let go you still have goals and purpose in life only you get to enjoy journey more. And you feel more relaxed and at peace.

When you let go you will think more clearly and you will find it easier to come up with solutions to tough challenges because your limiting emotions will not cloud your judgment. It is always easier to cope with setbacks when you feel at peace.

Make a point of releasing resistance that is holding you back.

If you don´t... success will elude you!