Can you imagine everything you do in your life pouring from this purposeful vessel of your being- ness? Imagine everything you engage in from doing dishes to leading a board meeting as a direct expression of your life purpose. How would you feel?

Here are some questions to consider helping you begin to clarify YOUR life purpose.

1. Who are you deep down? What do you love and what makes your heart sing?

2. When you are engaged in life and you are at your best, who are you being underneath what you are doing?

3. What is your vision for yourself and what do you see possible?

4. What are your values, principals that guide your life?

In these simple yet powerful questions I discovered my being-ness. I now know who I am and why I’m here. I learned that deep sense of fulfillment, which we are all seeking, comes from just being me. Soon after I clarified my life purpose I had a powerful experience. I was driving down road on my way to pick up my daughter. I heard that old familiar thought pop up again, “who am I and why am I here?” I immediately became present to truth and beauty of my life purpose:

“A life on purpose is a life of courage, creative expression, conscious awareness and abundant possibility through authentic being and clear compassionate service and love.” My heart opened and tears came to my eyes…I realized I never had to ask myself that question again.

It’s your life…imagine possibilities.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Helaine Iris is a Certified Life Coach She works with individuals, entrepreneurs, professionals, and leaders who want more out of life. People, who want to lead successful, balanced lives filled with love, passion and purpose. Are you ready to take a step that could change your life? For a complimentary session visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com

She remembered her parents arguing often. Her mother felt father did not care, did not want her, and did not participate in relationship or family. Sonya also remembered that her mother was one who started these arguments and did yelling, while her father first listened and then walked away.

Sonya's father did not spend much time with her, but was a good financial support. When her father eventually left, he did not stay in touch. Her mother told her over and over how all men eventually lose interest and leave.

Here is what Sonya wrote for section 2: * Father unavailable, uninterested and avoided confrontation. * Mother argumentative and blaming. * Father not around for me, not wanting me, leaving eventually. * Mother told me all men lose interest and leave.

When it came to Section 3, Sonya copied out responses from previous sections. She came up with following list:

* Jeff was unavailable, uninterested and argumentative. * Ronald was unavailable and uninterested, and avoided confrontation. * Rob was withdrawn, uninterested, and avoided confrontation.

* Father unavailable, uninterested and avoided confrontation. * Mother argumentative and blaming. * Father not around for me, not wanting me, leaving eventually. * Mother told me all men lose interest and leave.

In answering question, "What are similarities between hurtful behaviors of your parents and your past partners?" she noticed many similarities. For example, she noticed that all of men, with whom she has had a significant relationship, ended up treating her way her father treated both her and her mother. Sonya also noticed with a gasp that all of her relationships have fulfilled her mother's prophecy.

In answering question, "Are behaviors opposite?", she noticed that Jeff, her most recent relationship partner, was argumentative. In this way he was opposite of her father and more like her mother.

Here is Sonya's Section 3: * Father unavailable to me and mother; I find men who are not available. * Father was uninterested in mother and me; I find men who lose interest in me. * Father avoided confrontation; two of three relationships were with men who avoid confrontation. * Father left; I attract men who eventually leave. And mother told me they would.

* A man who is argumentative is opposite of my father, but just like my mother.

Finally, Sonya came to Section 4. What kind of a relationship pattern was she programmed for? The answered seemed obvious: exactly kind of pattern she has been living out, where men with whom she's in a relationship become unavailable, lose interest and eventually leave. She is programmed to have relationships that are domed to fail because she is with partners who cannot work through relationship for fear of confrontation.

She had to answer "yes" when asked if she was repeating her parents' relationship pattern in her own relationships. She also had to answer "yes" when asked whether she was doing opposite of her parents. And she realized that doing opposite got her same exact result.

Here is Sonya's Section 4: * I was programmed to have a relationship pattern where my partner will become unavailable, losing interest in me and eventually leaving. * I am exactly repeating pattern in my parents' relationship. * Sometimes I have done opposite of my parents' relationship, but got exactly same result.

If you do exercise yourself, I'm certain you'll have some great realizations, perhaps even a sense of relief. You will better understand why you attract and are attracted to certain kinds of partners. You will understand your relationship pattern. And in understanding your pattern, you will be able to break it and break free.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"