Welcoming our Wounded SelvesWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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I had to admit I didn't know anyone like that. I had never met an enlightened being. Since then, I have delighted in embracing my victim and all feelings that come from this false belief. My own progress has greatly excelerated as a result of this awareness. Next time you feel anxious, angry, guilty, shamed, critical, resistant, needy, depressed, hurt - try opening your arms and welcoming this wounded child. Explore beliefs behind these feelings and you might discover your victim. Then welcome that part with great love and compassion. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com
| | What Are the ABC's of Your Dream Job?Written by Sheri A. Callahan
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2.“B” Build a Plan of Action. Once you have written down your objectives then it is time to build support for your success. The first key is to identify benefits to employer than will come as a result of your job changes. For example; telecommuting will allow you to work at any hour necessary; casual dress would help lighten tone in office; a raise that included an additional key responsibility for you would lighten your boss’s workload; a half day on Friday would reduce stress; flextime would allow for phone lines to be open for additional hours…etc. The second key is to research related success stories of other employees, departments or companies. Ask other Managers if they have heard of related changes in other departments and level of success of that change. Also check with employees that have more knowledge about company. If you still need backup, look to positive changes within other companies of your type. This may take some phone calls to Human Resources Departments, but it will be worth it. And third key is to identify direct reasons that this change will enable you to do a better job for company. In other words “How will these changes make you a better employee for us?” The last key is to be fully prepared to address any and all questions and concerns relating to changes. You must develop clear, direct responses that diminish concern immediately. For example, “If we are allowed casual dress on Friday, we will have a much better outlook, but if you find it to be distracting we can always return to old ways. 3.“C” Communicate Your Proposal. Preparation is foundation to any sales proposal. You will be selling benefits of your job change to your manager and company. This has to be a strong sell for a change for one employee. First, if possible, present your proposal in general terms to another trusting manager for feedback and suggestions. Be sure to follow those suggestions as closely as possible and refer to that Manager’s input regarding change. Secondly, set stage for your manager. Begin by giving him/her a strategically written note requesting a meeting to discuss your current position and desired changes. Also request an appropriate amount of time, so that you are not interrupted. Upon meeting with your Boss, wear your best attire, your brightest smile, feel your confidence and believe in your well-developed plan of action. Thirdly, be prepared and secure in addressing any questions and/or concerns that may arise. Hopefully, you are prepared for this. Never become defensive, as this may appear that you are not being fully honest. Lastly, thank him/her for their time and inquire as to when you will speak with them again.Once you have followed ABC’s and successfully presented your proposal it is time to celebrate. Hopefully, your employer will see value of changes and your frustrations will ease. However, don’t be discouraged if “no” is answer, as it simply calls for you to reassess your situation. Remember that regardless of outcome, you have proven that you have ability to take control of your life. Stand tall and remember that you are always your own best advocate.
13 years of combined responsibilities in consulting; workforce development training; public speaking and business management. Sheri is often called upon for keynote addresses, public seminars, on-site trainings and performance consulting for a variety of organizations. Sheri is now President of Horizon Consuling Group, LLC. HCG specializes in addressing career development issues through performance consulting, training and keynote addresses.
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