Welcoming our Wounded Selves

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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Title: Welcoming our Wounded Selves Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 526 Category: Emotional Healing

WELCOMING OUR WOUNDED SELVES By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I just want to get rid ofrepparttar 130865 part of me that gets angry so easily."

"I haterepparttar 130866 part of me that thinks about food allrepparttar 130867 time."

"I just want to killrepparttar 130868 part of me that is so needy."

Forrepparttar 130869 last 35 years I have been counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners and have authored eight published books. Inrepparttar 130870 course of my work, I often hearrepparttar 130871 people I counsel wanting to get rid of their wounded aspects. This would be like attempting to kill off a child who is having problems. This would, of course, causerepparttar 130872 child many more problems.

Instead, we need to learn to welcome, embrace, love and explore withrepparttar 130873 many wounded parts of ourselves. These parts exist due torepparttar 130874 false beliefs that we have from our childhood experiences. These parts heal with love and truth, not with being disowned.

One day, when I was walking and talking with my inner guidance, I asked about my own wounded, disowned aspects. "There is really only one disowned aspect that allrepparttar 130875 other aspects come from. This aspect isrepparttar 130876 victim. The victim is likerepparttar 130877 mothership from which allrepparttar 130878 other wounded aspects emerge."

"Me? A victim?" I was a triffle miffed. I did not see myself as a victim. "Of course," said my guidance. "How can anyone grow up in your society and not believe you are a victim? Everyone has had many experiences in childhood of feeling victimized. The beliefs regarding being a victim are inrepparttar 130879 very young child within. Untilrepparttar 130880 beliefs within this wounded inner child are healed, you are being governed by them, even though you may not be aware of it. No one wants to feel like victim, so allrepparttar 130881 protections are to have control over not feeling like a victim. Allrepparttar 130882 anger, blame, withdrawal, denial, defensiveness, resistance, caretaking and so on are to have control over not being controlled. Allrepparttar 130883 addictions are to not feelrepparttar 130884 feelings of helplessness and aloneness that come from feeling like a victim. Embracerepparttar 130885 part of you that believes you are a victim and you will find yourself able to embrace allrepparttar 130886 feelings and behavior that come fromrepparttar 130887 belief that you are a victim. Who do you know who never thinks that their feelings or behavior is not caused by someone else, or by events, or by God? Who do you know who takes full responsibility for all their feelings and behavior, especially in their relationships?"

What Are the ABC's of Your Dream Job?

Written by Sheri A. Callahan


What arerepparttar ABC’s of Your Dream Job? Sheri A. Callahan, President, Horizon Consulting Group, LLC Keynotes, Training and Performance Consulting 803-606-3650 www.onthehorizon.net

“How’s work going?” Where does this question come from? Why do people ask us about our work? Don’t they have enough of their own work issues? The irony is that we usually don’t give a real answer to this question. How would it sound if we said, “My job really stinks!” Today’s world isn’t quite prepared for that kind of honesty. We tend to like responses that are simple, happy and successful. Am I referring to you? How about your neighbor? When you meet inrepparttar 130862 yard do you simply reply, “My job is going fine.”? Or do you say, “Let me tell you aboutrepparttar 130863 horrors of my job.” I doubt that is your response, because generally we have simply become conditioned to put up withrepparttar 130864 daily grind and keep smiling. CAN IT CHANGE?

The employment decisions that we made today, a month ago, a year ago or even a decade ago can certainly impact our everyday life for years to come. Stop right now and think about your job. Do you wake up each morning and throwrepparttar 130865 alarm clock acrossrepparttar 130866 room? Are you frustrated before you even get to your desk? Are you sick and tired of feeling like your world is spinning and you can’t get off? Is you personal life affected byrepparttar 130867 elements of your employment? CAN IT CHANGE?

In today’s world of non-stop pressure we often forget that true success doesn’t come in a paycheck or inrepparttar 130868 prestige of a job title. If you ask people what makes them content in their job it usually is a reflection ofrepparttar 130869 overall components of their 8 to 5 life andrepparttar 130870 flexibility of their employer. As a Headhunter, people tell me daily that there are many responsibilities in their job that they love and succeed in completing. They say they love their location, their duties, management style, salary and many others. Unfortunately, they also tell me that their employers don’t realize that those elements aren’t always enough to keep great employees. The misunderstood needs of employees are not as concrete as “Here are your five responsibilities, Kathy.” Things like making it to their son’s baseball game on time, telecommuting, and understanding life issues or even casual dress Fridays are often elements that are important to employees. After all your life is supposed to be more than where you work. So why can’t you have these elements in your job? What is important to you? Have you ever made a formal proposal to your boss to make your jobrepparttar 130871 “right” job? If your job hadrepparttar 130872 “right” elements would you stop throwing that alarm clock each morning? How nice that would be! YES IT CAN CHANGE!

The steps to creating your dream job are as easy as ABC. However, you must be realistic, forward thinking, and cautiously determined in order to make this dream job happen. I also give you this word of caution; not every employer will choose to make changes so that you can be a more rounded employee. Every industry, government agency, and corporation is different; not to mentionrepparttar 130873 uniqueness of one’s Boss. So it is up to you to get out that pen and paper, brainstorm, and make it happen.

Followrepparttar 130874 ABC’s for creating your dream job today!

1.“A” Assess Your Dream Plan. What arerepparttar 130875 factors that would make you most happy in a job? Is it specific duties, money, location, hours, environment, dress code...etc? List them all then weed outrepparttar 130876 highly unlikely. Make a list ofrepparttar 130877 pros and cons of your job. Determinerepparttar 130878 cons you can tackle with a reasonable alternative. For example, can you do that extra work from home so you can get torepparttar 130879 baseball game on time? Are these changes possible in your current job or would you need to seek employment elsewhere? Make a list ofrepparttar 130880 easy changes that would allow you to stay in your present job. If they look reasonable select only one or two primary objectives to propose to your Boss. Always be realistic about what an employer can accomplish with those objectives.

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