Truth TellingWritten by David Wood
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The result? It felt incredibly freeing, creating a very safe space of honesty, and brought us even closer together. When you're willing to dig deep, find truth, and risk sharing it, you: - Create a possibility for true acceptance, and real love. - Increase your self expression, which feels great! - Get led to who you really are, and to what you really love/hate. - Grow, and find more truth, and grow, and find more truth, and grow... - Have nothing to hide - how freeing is that!? - Attract those people ready for, and looking for, you! - Lose people who drain you (i.e. upgrade!) - Give others a gift - something ~real~ - as opposed to something false. - Create a safe space for them to tell ~their~ truth! How Do I "Up" My Level of Truth-Telling? Dear risk-takers: There ARE risks associate with this practice. Particularly for those of us who like to stick to comfort zone, please note that ~anything~ can happen - both negative, and wonderfully positive - if you do following: a) Write down names of three people you would like to feel closer to - e.g. spouse, boss, employee, friend, you! b) Next to each name, write down at least one thing that's important to you, but you would feel uncomfortable or unsafe telling them. What have you been with-holding? c) Tell them. Setting up space: let them know this is NOT about them. It's not about anything they have done wrong. It's simply about you, how you feel, what works for you, and that you want to let them know where you are. (Tip: If it's something you don't need them to do anything about, let them know that!) d) Now, give them exactly same space! The room to share their with-holds with you. Ask them: "Is there anything you would feel uncomfortable telling me?" "Have I ever disappointed you?" (What a question!). Let them know they can say anything, and you'll simply hear it, putting all your reactions aside. (Tip: If you're not willing to put your stuff aside, don't do this! If you can't control it, leave room). Risk a little! David
David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download “50 Power Questions” and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm
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Surrender 3 This is my favourite - names changed to protect guilty!One of my good friends - George - was complaining to me about his roommate. 'I've tried everything to get her to clean. I've created lists of jobs, we've created cleaning schedules, and I've tried cleaning more as an example. Nothing is working, and it's driving me nuts!'. Clearly he was trying to control situation - sound familiar? But more he tried to get her to clean, more excuses she came up with - and this guy is a powerful coach! When I asked him why he didn't just move out, he replied: 'But I love her to death. And other than this, I love living with her'. So together we created a completely ~opposite~ approach. The art of fun surrender. And here's what he went back to his roommate with: 'Jill, I love living with you. And I love you. I've been so hung up on this cleaning issue I've lost sight of that. I want you to know that if you never clean another thing I this house I'll be fine with that - in fact I'll handle it. I'm just glad you're my roommate'. Again - key is he meant it. He realised that doing all cleaning wasn't that big a deal for him, and he'd much rather have her in his life than 'get his way' over cleaning. All he had to do was give up his position - to give up being 'right' about it. And result? He s still got an awesome friend in his life, not to mention peace! OK - enough examples. Let's take a look at your neck of woods: Exercise: Apply This to YOUR Life' If you would like to completely eliminate a problem from your life - something that's been draining you, then try these three simple steps: 1) Notice where you are 'pushing' Are you arguing your point? Have you tried everything and person still won't change? Do they not seem to be listening, or just ignore you? Are you desperately trying to get to sleep (fighting yourself)? Have you complained about it more than twice in one week? More than ten times this year? 2) Ask yourself: 'What if they did that forever, and I was OK with it? If I embraced it?' 3) Choose an action ~you~ can do that would handle it, instead of them having to handle it. Before you may have argued, got upset or stressed out. But now - what could you do that would just handle/accept issue? To take responsibility for it? Not because you have to, but because it's more fun and will create more peace in your life? This week, make your life and someone else's life easier. Who's lucky person? And I'd love to hear what you come up with! Just zip me an email...I can keep it confidential, or with your permission even share it in next month's newsletter. Enjoy, David Wood
David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download “50 Power Questions” and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm
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