Transition

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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Along with most people I know, I have always had a life of transition, some sought and embraced, some thrust upon me kicking and screaming. And, with my particular flaws and skills, I have played my cards as they have been dealt. Once again, I have a new deck. The cards of course are familiar, for my character has not changed. I move with my current transition slowly, saying “good-bye” to what once wasrepparttar comfort zone of my profession, children and grandchildren and now, bump along a rocky landscape of writing columns and books,(the current book is Getting Sane Without Going Crazy) speaking to organizations and usingrepparttar 126324 media andrepparttar 126325 web to reach, and hopefully, to help, more people.

It is a passage of choice related to my age, to challenges long sought, to childhood reams that were unfulfilled, to knowledge gained. Still, when I analyze my own dynamics, I realize that there are ways that I don't know more about allrepparttar 126326 complex reasons for my own choices than those I am privileged to treat. Or,repparttar 126327 meanings made,repparttar 126328 life landscapes I design, keep changing from different views.

Recently, a member of a group that I was leading reassuringly tried to comfort a fellow group member who was suffering panic attacks and nightmares as she transitioned out of a long term but unsatisfying marriage to a life that at least temporarily was without a mate. Lovingly, he told her that she didn't have to move inrepparttar 126329 direction that was causing her such pain. She looked at him a long time and gently said, “No, you are wrong, I can't explain allrepparttar 126330 reasons why, why, but I must do this. You have to understand, much as I am in upheaval, it is my next step.” I listened quietly and I andrepparttar 126331 others in that room understood.

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.

Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.




What Do We Tell Our Children?

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


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Older children need to be included in conversations even more than young ones. For them, because they do understand, about hijacked planes and deaths in a burning building, they are afraid. It is OK if they know you have feelings too. As long as you remainrepparttar adult and don’t cling to your children to make you feel better. Treat them as individuals who can think and feel. Be honest with them. It may prevent nightmares and other unhelpful ways children have of handling their anxieties.

Gather your loved ones around you, touch them, hold them, and talk. Under stress, it is important to reach out and to communicate. Even those of you of superman or wonder woman orientation must talk to your spouse, your partner, your friends, your religious mentor, a crisis hot line, a therapist, or any combination ofrepparttar 126323 above. Without appropriately letting out your own feelings, you can compromise your immune system and eventually get ill. Don’t risk it. You owe it to yourself to remain healthy -- for your own sake and for those you love.

The following is an insightful communication I received from a colleague. I hope you find it helpful. “Dorree -- I do have a deeply lived insight … I was a child at Pearl Harbor. I carriedrepparttar 126324 most awful tightly held terror for over fifty years. My trauma was less because of what I witnessed, and more because of hearingrepparttar 126325 indiscriminant conversations betweenrepparttar 126326 adults, which struck terror into my heart, since as an eight-year-old I had no context for them. The excited or even heightened affect that an adult may take for granted at times like these can pitch a child's ego into disarray. Best to you, Paula.”

Life is too hard to do alone,

Dr. D.

Dorree Lynn, PH.D.



Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.




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