Come back together even if you’re hurting Develop a simple ritual for coming back together after a fight. Acknowledge that you fight only because you feel hurt. If you can accept that, it’s easier to have a truthful conversation.

Know that things are not how they appear Every relationship is a tangle of projection, transference and a dose of denial. It’s as if your partner is holding a mirror to your face and shows you what you hate most about yourself. The earlier you can stop blaming and start talking better you’ll feel.

Accept growing pains All relationships go through stages. Very few parents throw out their children when they hit ‘Terrible Two’s’ so why leave a perfectly workable relationship?

Be realistic No one person is ever going to fulfill your every need and desire. Imaginary couples fall in love quickly and we never really hear how it goes after credits have rolled. Real couples fall in love slowly and live fully ever after.

How do you develop your intuition? Professional Intuition Coach, Nancy R. Fenn (www.bemyguide.net), offers following beginning exercises:

·When phone rings, guess who’s calling before you pick up phone. ·If a tool or article is missing, let it “come to you” while you go on about your business. ·Before you get mail, decide on at least one item that will be in mail. ·Guess what time your spouse, child or roommate will walk in door. ·At any given time during day, relax and try to guess exactly what time it is without looking at your watch or a clock.

Here’s an exercise from Nancy: “Think of a problem you’re having that you’d like guidance on. Stand perfectly still and see what changes first in your environment, i.e., dog barks, curtains blow in wind, ambulance goes by, baby laughs, leaf falls to ground, bird fly overhead to left. Interpret this event symbolically as answer to question.”

What an exercise like this does, is force you to still logical, rational and very limited neocortex, so other parts of your brain can work.

Work with an intuition or EQ coach to develop your intuition. People who’ve developed theirs say they know it’s intuition because they feel absolutely sure. What a great feeling!