Many famous people used their whole brain. For example, Leonardo Da Vinci was an artist and innovator. He sketched helicopters hundreds of years ago because he was fascinated by mechanics. He also used his knowledge of how human body stands and moves to create extraordinary, lifelike paintings.

Strive to use your whole brain when studying, working and interacting with others. Also, be selective with what you feed your brain. As computer saying goes, “garbage in, garbage out.” The same holds true for what programs your brain is using. Therefore, only input positive, healthy and educational programs. Keep in mind that your thoughts, along with your ability to add, change, and discard them, is what essentially makes up your mind.

An ancient Chinese proverb says it best, “To gain knowledge, add things every day. To gain wisdom, remove things every day.” Just like a computer needs to delete files and information that are no longer useful, you have to discard information that no longer serves you. Knowing what is important to know, as well as what needs to go, will ensure that you have plenty of space left for learning next new thing.

Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed. is a whole life coach, speaker, and author of the Get Smart! LearningBook Series. She has authored 3 books and 8 workbooks on life empowerment topics. Her coaching practice is Brightlight Coaching, she helps people come up with bright ideas for their life and empowers them to freely shine their bright light to the world. visit virtually: www.getsmartseries.com www.brightlightcoach.com

The answer can be found by exploring three basic issues: *level of self-esteem *capacity for intimacy *roles that she has been in throughout her life

If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both orally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected. She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth. She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.

If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.

If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to true availability of other person. She wants him to be a full and active participant in relationship. She can allow herself to be open, vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy offers.

If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically available.

If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this healthy interaction.

If a woman has been too long in role of rescuer, caregiver or one who sacrifices for good of others, this will probably be role she will seek out in her relationships.

Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these issues. So task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy," who stirs your senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real relationship.

Begin with an assessment of what you value most in life and cannot live without. Go to http://www.consum-mate.com/newslets/02oct.htm for an article on "clarifying and living your values".

Once you know what is most important to you and believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step towards finding right partner for you.

Toni Coleman is a relationship coach in private practice in Virginia. She specializes in working with singles that want to create lasting, intimate relationships. She has written numerous email classes for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands of subscribers monthly.