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Now Emotional Intelligence means managing your own emotions (and those of others) so you can think, respond, and not self-sabotage. When you’ve developed yours, you learn to relax into a problem. This allows you to be flexible, cope, think clearly, and use creativity and reasoning to bring about
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Start by remembering that if you’re panicking, worried or angry, you cannot think clearly. The same applies for physical circumstances – too hot, too cold, too tired, too hungry, in too much pain.
You can’t always rely on others to soothe and calm you. One of best things EQ teaches is how to do what’s called “self-soothe,” so that you can experience emotion, understand it, and then THINK about how you’re going to respond, rather than reacting like a nematode to a prick.
Then, if it’s a problem you’re facing, check in with your top five strengths. I recommend you take StrengthsFinder profile, and there is information about it on my website.
You can always go back to these because they are innate. You were born with them and will always have them. They very much define you, and will always be your best course of approaching a program.
Someone else might have strengths of Relator and Communicator. This individual would have approached problem differently. They would probably have picked up phone right away and called a friend to brainstorm, or ask them to come over.
This example is analogous to many things that can happen in life. One day I’m a Biped (walking on two feet), next day I am not. I cannot get around way I used to and I have to figure out how to manage around this.
We have extreme and rapid changes like this in our world today. To cope with them we need Emotional Intelligence. We need to become resilient enough to walk one day in one way, and figure out how to walk another way next day, sometimes with no warning. With EQ, we learn to go back to other things we’ve coped with and draw on what we learned, and also to draw on our strengths and meta-strength of resilience.
Get proactive and start learning it now. You’ll need it some day.
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