[a] Look for people who share same basic values that you do. The Martial arts teach certain values and principles that you should know to look for. Honesty, respect, individuality - these are all good qualities that a lot of people share. Having friends with these qualities will make it a lot easier for you to feel relaxed and at ease when you're with them. You want to develop friendships that will be both fun and rewarding - mutually beneficial to all parties involved. One person should never carry burden of trying to make a relationship "work."

[b] Look for people who respect your decisions. Your friends will have different tastes than you do. They should respect your freedom of choice, just as you should respect theirs. Sometimes you may feel that a friend is not making a positive choice. Discuss these issues. Nothing is more important to friendship than communication and honesty. Discuss things with parents or significant others and your instructor(s) as well.

[c] Look for people who are real team players. You know what that means: people who are willing to stick by you through thick and thin, who will be there when you need them, and will show you understanding that you in turn give back. A friend you know you can depend on is one you will probably have for life.

There will be times when you feel that a friend of yours is consistently making bad choices, or is not treating you with respect. The Ninja Warrior takes pride in understanding: try to see where your friend is coming from, and try to resolve any differences you might have. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents, spouse, or your instructor. They have benefit of experience, and are always looking out for your best interests. There are very few things as precious as having good friends, and you should not let them go easily. Hold onto your friendships; let them know you value them and do your best to solve problems as quickly as they arise. Trust your instincts and follow your heart!

If you’re not either currently living your dreams or feel absolutely certain about path you’re on leading to achievement of your goals and dreams here’s why. Don’t take this personally, or do take it personally, either way what it boils down to is your standards for what you EXPECT are too low. One of life’s truisms is that we absolutely get what we expect to get. Set your personal standards on average and that’s exactly what you, everyone, and everything around you will be. On other hand (and yes, choice is yours) be kind of person who insists on above average EVERYTHING and you’ll find yourself living in an above average environment.

Oh and that gift that you left somewhere back there? It’s still right there waiting for you to pick it up. But first you gotta—

Raise your standards.

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