Rigidity (unable to adapt or take on board feedback and learn) Poor relationships (alienating others) Daniel Goleman, who has pioneered much of information about Emotional Intelligence, categorises EI into four main headings: Self-Awareness, Self- Management, Relationship Management and Social Awareness. These are then subdivided into a total of 18 competencies, with each competency containing a number of checklist criteria. For example competencies within Self-Awareness are Emotional self- awareness, Accurate self assessment and Self-confidence. The checklist criteria under Emotional self-awareness being:

- Are attuned to their inner signals - Recognise how their feelings affect them and their job performance - Are attuned to their guiding values - Can often intuit best course of action because in a complex situation, they see bigger picture - Tend to be candid and authentic, speaking openly about their emotions or with conviction about their guiding vision

An effective business leader will display strengths from at least one of each of sub categories.

So a good starting point is to become more self-aware. This will mean that we can manage our emotions more effectively, learn to communicate more authentically, take ownership of what we think and say, develop empathy and respect difference. The end result is that we feel more empowered and knock-on effect of that can only be positive.

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SELF AWARENESS As you journey with yourself, get to know yourself better, be kinder to yourself, more open, more generous, tolerant, compassionate with yourself, so you become that way with others. It is a natural evolutionary process. "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."

Through this process barriers can be broken down, conflict resolved and communication become authentic. Win/Win is possible when Right/Wrong are not part of equation.

THE SHADOW Then we point finger at others, when we label them Bad or Evil...we have missed point. By focusing outwards on how others seem to be, we don’t look within. We don’t acknowledge shadow parts of us. The parts that can be spiteful, vengeful, angry, dismissive, shut down, rejecting. We like to think that we would never behave like "they" have behaved. But...there is always a potential killer in us. A mother to protect her child is a classic example.

Often we dress our shadow in a mantle of self-righteousness and self justification. Worse, we just believe that we are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT and all views opposed to ours are WRONG and BAD. Then Love is lost and we are in a contracted place.

INNER PEACE = WORLD PEACE These are turbulent and frightening times...but as with all adversity it contains opportunity for us to learn and grow. Take time to look within yourself. "Know Thyself" said Oracle at Delphi- ancient wisdom that is even more important in our modern world. Change is happening at an incredible rate...let’s make sure that it’s powerful change to create a world that works for everyone.

You can read more about how to do this, in Perry Akasha’s book "How to do life – powerful pointers for powerful living". Packed with practical information, insights and ideas, numerous tips, easy to follow How To’s and Pause Points, this down-to-earth, reader friendly book is essential for anyone who wants to be more effective in their life and relationships.

She is co-founder of The Empowering Partnership which offers a range of powerful, life changing personal development workshops in UK and overseas as well as corporate consultancy. She is currently training as an Interfaith Minister and working on her next book "Down to Earth Spirituality"

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