The Higher Up You Go the More You Need EQ?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Your Emotional Intelligence,repparttar intelligent management of your emotions, influences your immune system. As researcher Candace Pert says, our emotions are in every cell. One ofrepparttar 130019 EQ competencies, Personal Power is particularly important. It meansrepparttar 130020 opposite of feeling hopeless and helpless.

According torepparttar 130021 Society for Neuroscience, “one important determinant ofrepparttar 130022 immune system’s resistance or susceptibility to disease may be a person’s sense of control as opposed to a feeling of helplessness.” Further, they think it’srepparttar 130023 PERCEPTION of control or helplessness that influences these physiological responses which in turn affectrepparttar 130024 immune system.

And what jobs do they mention as being particularly stressful in this way? Telephone operators, waiters and waitresses, and cashiers, “jobs that carry high demands and low control.”

Individuals who can regulaterepparttar 130025 pace and style of their work have lower rates of heart disease. Going back torepparttar 130026 “executive monkey” experiments of a decade ago,repparttar 130027 monkey who could controlrepparttar 130028 shocks handledrepparttar 130029 stress better thanrepparttar 130030 one who couldn’t.

Note that it’srepparttar 130031 PERCEPTION. In other words, if you could change your perception, you could do a lot for your wellness. One way to change your perception is to learn and understandrepparttar 130032 emotions better, so that eventually you can tamp them down when necessary. Then your perception ofrepparttar 130033 event will be that you can handle it, and that makes a difference.

The goal is not to become numb. We needrepparttar 130034 information and vitality we get from our emotions. Also,repparttar 130035 short-lived and immediate response to stress. It helps us inrepparttar 130036 long-term, giving usrepparttar 130037 extra strength we need to cope withrepparttar 130038 threat. We’ve all read inrepparttar 130039 news about people performing incredible acts in order to save people they love. In addition,repparttar 130040 immediate physiological responses protect us and help re-re-establish homeostasis.

Those of us in public speaking understand this phenomenon. You learn to allowrepparttar 130041 adrenalin to pump up just enough to get you “up’ sufficiently forrepparttar 130042 presentation, but not so much that anxiety takes over, or that you’re exhausted afterwards. You also learn to put it out of your mind until needed; otherwise you’d be up allrepparttar 130043 night before! It becomes a matter of management, which is what Emotional Intelligence is all about.

Learn more aboutrepparttar 130044 intelligent management and use of emotions. It can affect your wellness.

Resource: “Brain Facts,” www.sfn.org

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching, business programs, Internet classes, teleclasses and ebooks around Emotional Intelligence. I train and certify EQ coaches. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for information on this fast, affordable, flexible, no-residency program. For FREE ezine, email me and put “ezine” for subject line.


How to Have a More Sensual Relationship

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


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4. BECOME AN EXPERT ON YOUR PARTNER’S NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION.

Words arerepparttar clumsiest vehicle we have for communicating how we feel. The most important information is not transmitted that way. Couples who've been together a long time, love each other, and are happy, can 'read each other like a book.' The slightest glance conveys volumes torepparttar 130017 understanding 'heart'. Resource: "Nonverbal Communication," http://www.webstrategies.cc/nonverbal_communication.html . Researchers say one trait ofrepparttar 130018 happiest couples is they can sense whenrepparttar 130019 other one is sad.

5. PRACTICE SLOWING DOWN.

You can't be sensual if you're in a hurry. This is what "SMELLrepparttar 130020 roses" refers to. At least once a day stoprepparttar 130021 madness, stop thinking (that chatter inrepparttar 130022 left-brain) and FEEL, i.e., experience through your 5 senses (not your intellect). In fact you’ll really know you’re there when you lose sense of time.

6. DEVELOP YOUR 6TH SENSE: INTUITION.

Work with a certified EQ coach to develop your Intuition and bring it more into awareness. You can then "sense" things more quickly and also tune in to your own needs, wants and desires more quickly. Intuition is your surest guide and it can be learned. Resource: "Intuition," http://www.webstrategies.cc/aintuition.html .

7. INCREASE YOUR PARTICIPATION IN NATURE AND THE ARTS.

Study great art - painting, poetry, classical music. Do this individually, and then plan "nature" outings with your partner where you can stare atrepparttar 130023 stars, feelrepparttar 130024 breeze tickle your hair, hearrepparttar 130025 rustling ofrepparttar 130026 leaves orrepparttar 130027 pine cones underfoot, taste a ripe, fresh passion fruit (yes!), and feelrepparttar 130028 rocking ofrepparttar 130029 boat. Leaverepparttar 130030 chatter out!

8. LEARN ABOUT MASSAGE BY READING.

Read about how to give a massage. Here are 3 free resources: How to Give a Back massage, http://www.journey-to-self.com/back_massage.htm , How to Give a Massage, http://riri.essortment.com/howtogiveama_ryta.htm, and Learn to Give a Great Massage, http://www.massagefree.com .

9. LEARN ABOUT MASSAGE EXPERIENTIALLY.

Schedule a professional massage and considerrepparttar 130031 masseuse to be 'modeling' for you. Learn experientially what you like. Pay attention torepparttar 130032 total ambiance they create. If you have a good one, it should include: low lighting, restricted noise level, no talking (not a thinking thing), no jewelry, various techniques, warm, moist towels, oils, symmetry, and music such as "The Most Relaxing Classical Music inrepparttar 130033 Universe," "The Pachelbel Canon with Ocean Sounds," and "Natural Sleep Enducements".

Sleep enducements? Sensual is about pleasure and relaxation, not arousal. Which leads to point number 10.

10. PONDER THIS THOUGHT: Everything is about sex except sex, and sex is about aggression.

DISTINCTIONS

Thinking v. pondering Looking v. gazing Savouring v. tasting Caressing v. touching Experiencing v. feeling Delivering v. giving Happiness v. pleasure

©Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching, business programs, Internet classes, teleclasses and ebooks around Emotional Intelligence. I train and certify EQ coaches. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for information on this fast, affordable, flexible, no-residency program. For FREE ezine, email me and put “ezine” for subject line. Check out the best ebook library on the Internet - www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html .


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