What's going on right now? Is it too much? Is it too little? Listen within for answer. It's there and you can trust it. This principle is known to me as "Goldilocks Principle" and it's a great tool to use. What is 'just right' for me, right now?

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Although we intuitively know what is 'just right' for us, we do use clues and they are from extremes. Too hot, too cold. Too little, too much. Too hard, too soft. Too black, too white. We know when something is "too" anything for us. The important trick is to remember to ask:

What is 'just right' for me, right now?

HEALING YOUR ADDICTION TO TALKING

Imagine that you have a child within you – your feeling self - who feels very alone. This child feels alone because you are not paying attention to him or her. Every time you trap someone into listening to you, it is as if you are handing this inner child away for adoption. You want someone else to attend to and approve of this child instead of you accepting this responsibility.

The very fact of doing this is an inner abandonment and is creating aloneness that is at heart of all addictions. By expecting others to listen to you when you don’t listen to yourself, you are giving child within a message that he or she is not important to you. When you do not take time to attend to your own feelings and needs, you are creating inner neediness and emptiness. This inner emptiness is like a vacuum that attempts to suck caring from others. Yet no matter how often others do listen to you, it never really fills you. This is because only you can give your own inner child what he or she needs.

If you were to take some time each day to have a dialogue, either out loud or in writing, with part of you who so needs to be heard, you would discover that you can fill your own emptiness. In addition, if you practice imagining a loving spiritual presence holding you, loving you, listening to you and guiding you, you will no longer feel alone.

As long as you believe that it is someone else’s job to fill you, you will not take time to learn how to fill yourself. As long as you believe that it is okay to trap others and use them to fill yourself, you will continue your talking addiction. Only when you get that it is not loving to yourself or others to expect them to take care of your own inner child – your own feelings and needs - will you start to take on that responsibility.

While you might not believe that you can fill yourself better than others can, you will not know until you try. My personal experience is that when my intention is to take loving care of myself and to fill myself with Love that is God, I feel happy and peaceful. When you choose to take responsibility for meeting your own needs instead of abandoning yourself to others, you will never feel alone.