The Goldilocks Principle

Written by Kavit M Haria


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Do you rememberrepparttar 129333 story of Goldilocks andrepparttar 129334 3 Bears? It's quite a simple story and as an adult only takes minutes to read. Can Goldilocks help you get ready to do anything? She sure can!

Fromrepparttar 129335 story, what most of us remember isrepparttar 129336 repeated theme of 'too hot, too cold, just right', 'too hard, too soft, just right'. How did Goldilocks actually know which was which? When I was reading this story to my little cousin, this thought sprouted in my mind - how did she know which was 'just right' for her?

The thing is... she 'just' knew. That'srepparttar 129337 message for all of us: we all 'just' know what's 'just right' for us and where our personal balance lies. It's simply just a matter of trusting ourselves. The messages may seem inconsistent, but they are always almost appropriate for where we are inrepparttar 129338 moment.

Addiction to Talking

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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Title: Addiction to Talking Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 742 Category: Self Improvement

Addiction to Talking By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

There is an old joke about people who talk a lot: “Do you knowrepparttar 129332 12-Step program for people who talk a lot? On and On Anon!”

The joke recognizes that fact that incessant talking is a common addiction.

Non-stop talking is about using others for attention and approval because of not giving oneself enough attention and approval. The talker is not actually offering anything torepparttar 129333 listener. Instead,repparttar 129334 talker, in going on and on with a monologue, is pulling energy fromrepparttar 129335 listener. People who end up listening to a talker go on and on are often caretakers who are afraid to hurtrepparttar 129336 talker by disengaging or by tellingrepparttar 129337 truth about their boredom.

Talkers are often needy people who attempt to assuage their emptiness by trapping people into listening to them. For example, I’ve seen people telling a bank teller their life story, whilerepparttar 129338 trapped teller doesn’t know how to disengage without being impolite. The problem is that one ofrepparttar 129339 reasons these people are without friends is that no one wants to be with them. It’s draining to be atrepparttar 129340 other end of a needy person who uses talking as a way to fill up.

If you are addicted to talking, perhaps you believe that you are being interesting when you go on and on about yourself. However, you might reconsiderrepparttar 129341 truth of this belief if you find that many people avoid you. Most people will not tell yourepparttar 129342 truth – that they feel tired, drained and trapped in your presence, and bored by your talking. Not wanting to offend you, they just stay away rather speak their truth. They don’t answerrepparttar 129343 phone when they know it’s you, and they find any excuse to not spend time with you. It’s not that they don’t like you – it’s that they don’t want to be used by you to fill up your emptiness.

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