Of course she doesn’t. She’s a girl. But he doesn’t know that yet. One day, if we are all lucky, he might. And at on that day he will not only see and understand differences, he may even appreciate those differences. Just like Mom should now.

I think that’s why God gave us moms sons. To teach us that once in awhile it’s all right to break out of our safe, little, don’t-do-that existences and show us a whole new exciting wonderful world ready to be explored. Trees to climb. Trampolines to jump off of. Cars to drive. Rockets to build. Caves to investigate. Lakes to swim. Mountains to ski. Might we get hurt? Yes. Might we fall down? Yes. But think of all fun we’ll have.

Many years ago I heard story of a small boy I knew while I was growing up. One day his mother found him climbing nearly to top of a very tall windmill at their home. Immediately she panicked trying to figure out how to get him down without a broken bone or worse. Before my son came along, I always thought of that story from mother’s perspective. From that perspective I felt fear and danger and disaster looming. I thought of who I would call: his father, law, ambulance. Thoughts of what I would say and how I would say it to get him down swirled every time I heard story.

Since I’ve had a son, however, I’ve had insight to look at that journey up windmill from boy’s perspective and from that perspective, I don’t see fear and danger. I don’t think of all trouble he has caused. No. From boy’s perspective up on windmill, I can see for miles in every direction. I can see things like I’ve never seen them before. I can feel wind in my face, and it seems like whole world is at my feet. Of course Mom is at bottom yelling at me to get down, but from up here even that doesn’t matter because up here I’m free. To tell you truth, it’s a perspective that I kind of like. Yes, a boy can make a huge difference—even in a mom.

How do you do it? Simple. Implement thoughts you have. Allow thoughts that you normally reject or push down or feel will not be acceptable to become a practical part of your life. That’s right implement them.

If you think that something is right or a good thing to do. Do it. Put it into practice. Don't just understand it and think about it, do it. This brings power. This is motivation by real you. The wish to do things in order to bring out best in others and yourself.

One way to start to change your motivational state is through meditation. For us meditation is more than just sitting crossed legged quietly in a room bringing peace and happiness to yourself and others. Meditation is an opportunity to recognise rubbish that is debilitating your life and get rid of it.

“Meditation is a delightful and spontaneous thing to do. It is a continual act of making friends with yourself, you just cannot contain that friendship within you: you must have some outlet, which is your relationship with world. Trust and compassion for oneself brings inspiration to dance with life.” (Arthur Janov)

It’s an opportunity to look at your behaviour and thoughts and change them. To gradually develop thoughts and life that rewards rather than punishes. Whether you are walking dog, jogging, washing up or cleaning car you can start by think about and enjoying all things that you have, rather than thinking about what you don't have. Use power of your thoughts to create good moods, to overcome weaknesses, to increase your self worth and your abilities and skills. Use your thoughts to transform yourself and your behaviour.

Instead of thinking about weaknesses of yourself and others, meditate on your own virtues, powers and values. Ask yourself:

what did I do today that I was unhappy about?

what was external circumstance or pressure I reacted to?

what could I have done differently?

what can I do next time I am faced with a similar situation?

As you gain habit of thinking how real you wants to live then you will be able to change your perspective and develop a really alert state of mind. This is power of thought.

How can you react against your present way of life? By doing something which is opposite to that which creates a life motivated by fear. You can react by having power over your thoughts, words and actions.

Graham and Julie www.desktop-meditation.com

Graham and Julie live on the Canary islands where they pursue their love for writing, photography and spirituality. To see more of their work please go to: www.desktop-meditation.com