When you are faced with an incident that is new to you, how do you react? How do you react when things don’t go quite like you expected or wanted them to? When you feel when you have been blamed for something that wasn’t your fault? How do you react? How do you react when you stop at
junction and car behind doesn’t and drives into you? How do you react when your child gives you his/her school report which is not as good as you expected? Do you look for reactions from others before you do anything? Do you gauge your success from reactions of others?Each of us reacts from a place of our real self or fear. When you react from a place of fear you can only be destructive to yourself and others. You can only give yourself pain.
Do you have feelings of anxiety? Does your stomach go into knots? When things don’t go your way do you become whinny, irritable and moody? Do you find that you react to some things by being angry, upset, aggressive or by withdrawing from scene totally? After a bad period at work do you find it difficult to sleep? Difficult to eat, difficult to concentrate ? Do you find yourself being more and more negative? Or perhaps you suffer internally from stomach pains, back pains, head aches and general aches and pains? Guess what: You are motivated by fear.
Our lives have become so motivated by fear. Fear of not having enough money. Fear of losing our jobs. Fear of Death. Fear of losing. Etc. etc. etc. Ask yourself:
What’s deep motivation in my life?
Am I motivated by fear?
Which is dominant fear that motivates me?
Your reactions depend on your motivation. Your way of thinking. The problem with a fear motivated life is that it keeps you locked into thoughts and practices you know. The past dominates your life. How do you react? You react how you have always reacted.
Another face of a fear motivated life is a dependence on others and how others see you. This leads to situation where you fail to act unless you are sure it will please another. Or you will not act because you are concerned that it will upset other person. Remember, being in awe of someone is also a state of fear: It’s just that you have gone upmarket.
The third face, is face of competition. We are brought up to believe competition is good for us. So it is: when we compete against ourselves to reach our personal best. But when you are constantly measuring yourself against another person then motivation by fear rears its ugly head. Constantly judging others and making comparisons between yourself and others leads to a doing culture.
Before you go home You know you have to do…… because if you don’t ……………. you will be seen as inadequate etc. etc. etc. You are now motivated by fear of losing.
There is another way. A way that enables you to deliver on time every time without all aggravation. Think in a different way. As we said; your reactions depend on your motivation. So what if your motivation in life is to enjoy yourself, to accept people where they are, rather than try to change them, to be happy and peaceful inside. What if you followed your intuition, your feelings and let go of fear.
