The Courage to Be a Loving Parent

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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The challenge of good parenting is to findrepparttar balanced between being there for our children and being there for ourselves, as well asrepparttar 111360 balance between freedom and responsibility - to be personally responsible to ourselves rather than be a taker or a caretaker.

Our decisions need to be based on what is inrepparttar 111361 highest good of our children as well as ourselves. If a child wants something that is not in our highest good to give, then it is not loving to give it. If we want something that is not inrepparttar 111362 highest good of our children, then it is not loving for us to expect it. It is loving to support our children’s freedom to choose what they want and to be themselves, as long as it doesn’t mean giving ourselves up. Children do not learn responsible behavior toward others when their parents discount their own needs and feelings to support what their children want. Our own freedom to choose what we want and to be ourselves needs to be just as important to us as our children’s freedom and desires.

Onrepparttar 111363 other hand, if we always put our needs before our children’s, we are behaving in a self-centered, narcissistic way that limits our children’s freedom. We are training our children to be caretakers, to give themselves up for other’s needs and not consider their own.

The challenge of loving parenting is to role-model behavior that is personally responsible, rather than being a taker or caretaker. This is our best chance for bringing up personally responsible children. However, we need to remember that we can do everything "right" as a parent, but our children are on their own path, their own soul’s journey. They will make their own choices to be loving or unloving, responsible or irresponsible. We can influence their choices, but we can’t control them. They have free will, just as we do, to choose who they want to be each moment of their lives. All we can do isrepparttar 111364 very best we can to role-model loving, personally responsible behavior - behavior that supports our own and our children’s highest good.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com


Where Do Your Priorities Fit?

Written by Don Schmitz


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Finally, he grabbed a pitcher of water and poured untilrepparttar jar was filled torepparttar 111359 brim. The speaker looked atrepparttar 111360 class and asked, "What isrepparttar 111361 point of this illustration?" The speaker listened to a number of very good responses and said: "The truth this illustration teaches us is this: If you don't putrepparttar 111362 big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all."

What arerepparttar 111363 big rocks in your life? Are they your spouse, children and grandchildren? Are they your work, television or gambling? Are you wasting time with things that are unimportant? What is important in your life?

Don Schmitz is a well-known writer and speaker on parenting and grandparenting. He is the author of "The New face of Grandprenting...Why Parents Need Their Own Parents" and founder of Grandkidsandme, which includes: Grandparent Camps and Grandkid Days. Don holds graduate degrees in Education, Administration, Human Development and is father to three sons and grandfather to four granddaughters. Contact Don Schmitz at Don@.grandkidsandme.com http://www.grandkidsandme.com


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