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2 Give yourself a lot of external stimulation
To keep your focus off of yourself you need to put more and more attention on other person. If you only listen to her words you still have plenty of idle brain power that will drift back to make your self consciousness grow.
Instead you need to give your conscious mind so much to pay attention to that you are totally absorbed in other person. Become fascinated by how she expresses herself and not just by what she says.
Keep stacking on more details to simultaneously pay attention to until you are challenged without feeling overwhelmed.
Here is a list of some elements to focus on:
- rate of breathing - speech rhythm - pupil dilation - changes in skin tone - speech patterns - metaphors - posture and movement - combinations of above
The more you pay attention to other person less self conscious you will be because you will have become other conscious. Which is in fact hallmark of people who make friends easily. Your clear interest in other person will shine through.
3 Patient Persistence
The final point to remember is that patience and persistence wins day. Play with these strategies a little each day and you will start to exhibit traits of people who are supposedly gifted with people skills.
People skills are a matter of strategy. Learn strategy, practice it and you too will enjoy benefits that come to those who get along well with whoever they meet.
At same time you need to earn riches that await you. Many know what to do but few do what they know.
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