The Amazing Secret To Ridding Yourself Of Self Consciousness

Written by Peter Murphy


One ofrepparttar biggest challenges to developing superior communication skills is that you already have your hands full in those situations where you need help. Take a typical scenario - meeting new people.

If I give you tips for listening more effectively and you rush off to practicerepparttar 129688 tips you may not get very far no matter how hard you try. Why? Because you are likely to be self conscious when you need to be other conscious. Standing in front ofrepparttar 129689 new people you want to meet you freeze and you feel so unsure of yourself that you cannot remember even one ofrepparttar 129690 listening tips.

You needrepparttar 129691 ability to switch off self consciousness whenever you choose to do so. Sounds obvious only how can you do this? By switching your attention off of yourself and ontorepparttar 129692 other person.

When you are feeling self conscious you will tend to pay too much attention torepparttar 129693 thoughts inside your head, how you are feeling and how you look.

Ironically, to develop great rapport you need to pay close attention torepparttar 129694 other person. How is she feeling? How does she look today? Is she relaxed or tense?

The Three Elements To Ridding Yourself Of Self Consciousness

1 Turn offrepparttar 129695 inner dialogue that makes you feel self conscious

One way to do this is to touchrepparttar 129696 roof of your mouth with your tongue when you are not talking. We tend to move our tongues when we engage in inner talk even if only very slightly. When you putrepparttar 129697 tip of your tongue torepparttar 129698 roof of your mouth you interruptrepparttar 129699 negative inner talk pattern.

Sounds simple. It is! I could write more and more about this tip but it would not help you as much as just using it. I will leave it to you to test it for yourself.

4 Quick, Easy Ways to Say No to People Who Take You for Granted

Written by Peter Murphy


No matter how wonderful you are sometimes other people will try to take advantage of your good nature. They will push you, get you to do more than your fair share and keep asking you to do even more.

And worst of all -- often your efforts will be taken for granted. Unless you can say No,repparttar situation will not change in fact it may get even more difficult.

That is unless you can say No to these unreasonable people because very often to win respect from people you have to sometimes say No.

Here are 4 great ways to stand up for yourself and say No:

1 Softenrepparttar 129686 No

Instead of shouting No atrepparttar 129687 person and creating an uncomfortable encounter you can instead softenrepparttar 129688 No by postponing your help.

For example --

- No, I am busy right now but I can help you in 40 minutes time - No, I have other things to do atrepparttar 129689 moment - Right now I do not have a free moment maybe later on - I would love to help but not at this minute, try John

What you are doing is softeningrepparttar 129690 No by saying not now rather than an outright No. This is a lot easier to do especially when dealing with people who intimidate you.

2 Negotiate

To deal with people who want your help but are slow to help you -- negotiate! When they want something from you, you haverepparttar 129691 power - use it!

Say you are happy to help on one condition -- that they help you immediately when you seek their help. They will usually agree because they have to! If they say No, again as above, postpone helping them if you can.

There are some people who viewrepparttar 129692 world in terms of what is in it for them andrepparttar 129693 concerns of others are of secondary importance. With these people you are wasting your time talking about your needs.

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