Sober From Clutter - Part 3

Written by Janet L. Hall


Continued from page 1

What are your beliefs regarding a gift given to you? Meaning, what would you like to do with your unwanted gifts?

So what does one do when they receive a gift they dislike, or don't need another one of? Do you grin, politely say thank you, and toss it ontorepparttar pile of other unwanted, unused gifts? You couldn't bear to give it away to someone that could use or love it. You feel guilty if you do.

There's no one here to judge you. What do you feel like doing with allrepparttar 131140 gifts you've gotten and never used?

How can you stop feeling guilty of holding on to piles of gifts that are unwanted by you but that might be treasures to someone else?

1. Stop living withrepparttar 131141 fear thatrepparttar 131142 gift giver might inquire about their gift. As Paula Langguth Ryan talks about in her seminar, "Breakrepparttar 131143 Debt Cycle for Good,"..."Ifrepparttar 131144 gift giver asks where their gift is that you have given to another, you might reply something like: So and so admired it so much or was in need that I gave it to her."

2. Choose not to feel guilty, and give up blaming others for your guilt beliefs. Today, choose your own beliefs of what you can do with gifts that are given to you.

3. Takerepparttar 131145 risk today of overcoming your fear of losingrepparttar 131146 relationship withrepparttar 131147 gift giver, and of overcomingrepparttar 131148 guilt of givingrepparttar 131149 gift givers gifts away. If your relationship withrepparttar 131150 gift giver is good and supportive, I believe they will not judge you but rather support you in your choice to share your gifts.

4. Replace your negative feelings, guilt and fear, with positive feelings. It's really okay to let go of things that belong to you that you no longer use or have a need for.

5. Give yourself permission TODAY not to feel guilty and to let go of all your unused and unwanted gifts.

6. Haverepparttar 131151 courage to get rid ofrepparttar 131152 gifts that are taking up your precious space.

7. Don't judge yourself or let others judge you for sharing your gifts with others.

8. Rememberrepparttar 131153 gift givers aren't responsible for your happiness or your stuff...YOU are!

Tips to help you receiverepparttar 131154 gifts you REALLY want:

>>Start keeping a gift list of every dream, desire, and whim of things you want or need. Don't think ofrepparttar 131155 cost, and please don't think you are not deserving.

>>Share your gift list when asked what you want. Don't be shy about this.

>>Be specific, if you want a particular book, listrepparttar 131156 author and name of book.

>>List your sizes, and color preferences.

>>Giverepparttar 131157 gift giver three to four choices with different price ranges.

>>Don't giverepparttar 131158 same list to everyone.

Followingrepparttar 131159 above steps will liftrepparttar 131160 burden ofrepparttar 131161 gift giver of trying to stand in your shoes, and decide for you what you need or could use. And believe me,repparttar 131162 gift giver will appreciate a gift list more then a, "I don't need anything." Don't forget to getrepparttar 131163 same information from others when you becomerepparttar 131164 gift giver.

The things you have around you should nurture you, and give you positive energy. So, clear offrepparttar 131165 tops of your closets,repparttar 131166 corners ofrepparttar 131167 basement, andrepparttar 131168 attic of allrepparttar 131169 gifts you've stashed away, never used, and give all that stuff away, today, freely, and hang your gift guilt beliefs up forever!

**** For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.

Copyright Ó 2001 by OverHall Consulting P.O. Box 263, Port Republic, MD 20676 All Rights Reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute so long as article is kept intact, this copyright notice and full information about contactingrepparttar 131170 author is attached.

For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.


Maybe You Are a Victim

Written by Janet L. Hall


Continued from page 1

Don't let your tapes eat away at you silently - deal with it today and stop hiding behind your stuff. Allow yourself to go forward with your life and become clutter free.

Dr. Phil toldrepparttar volunteers of The Challenge that they needed some new tapes to start running, and that if they couldn't do it alone to please get some help! He also told them they can't change what happened but they can change what will happen. You choose!

Isn't time to stop feeling or actingrepparttar 131138 victim because of what might have happened to you in your past? As long as you live inrepparttar 131139 past and have an "oh poor me" attitude you will NEVER be able to move forward. You are in CONTROL of your life NOW! You get to decide and take responsibility for your actions. Notrepparttar 131140 people that might have done you an injustice. Notrepparttar 131141 people that couldn't give you what you wanted or needed. Notrepparttar 131142 people that might have given you too much or too little. Notrepparttar 131143 people that have hurt you in some way. If you feel you are lacking something in your life then just visit any shelter, without judgement, and just see what lack really is. What do you have that you can give to others?

Release, unwind, and let go ofrepparttar 131144 tapes that tell you you are not worthy, you have to keep every gift, you must hold on to items that are still useful, that you must keep just in case, or that you must buy, buy, buy.

You need to: =>Address your clutter problems to findrepparttar 131145 solutions. =>Stop believing what you've been telling yourself; "one day I'll get organized," or "I'll keep this just in case," or "It's too good to throw away," or "My best friend gave this to me." =>Declare this a new day with new thoughts.

You NEED to get some new tapes in your head!

Today I'll start to get organized. Today I'll start to sort throughrepparttar 131146 clutter. Today I will DECIDE for myself what I should keep. Today I'll look at my stuff differently, through my eyes. Today I'm willing to let go of items that no longer serve me, make me unhappy, have bad memories, or are no longer wanted.

Once you start releasing (giving)repparttar 131147 things that might be causing your pain, anxiety, or sorrow then get ready to start receiving (getting)repparttar 131148 things you really need, want, or have been dreaming or wishing for.

The Universe is very powerful and will quickly replacerepparttar 131149 things in your life that you've let go of freely with those of your true needs or desires.

Victim of something - probably. Freedom to change and make choices - ABSOLUTELY!

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." --Harvey Fierstein

For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.

Copyright (c) 2002 by OverHall Consulting P.O. Box 263, Port Republic, MD 20676 All Rights Reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute this article so long as article is kept intact, this copyright notice, and full information aboutrepparttar 131150 author is attached.

For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.


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