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I’ve challenged franchise, threatened exclusive territory of youth. Not that he will dwell on matter for long, I’m sure. Soon, Frank will be back in place where young people live. The intersection of Testosterone Boulevard and Estrogen Avenue, where heavy hot-rod traffic is seen as all there is to sexuality — surely that can’t be Mom and Dad steaming up windows of Oldsmobile parked at overlook, or Grandma and Grandpa, giddy from a couple of champagne toasts, groping each other in back of that limo?
Youth “knows” that it has franchise, that sex requires supple skin, firm bodies and energy galore surging into all night orgasms. “Don’t you tell us you are doing it too,” kids say, seriously shocked and appalled. “You can’t be, not really and certainly not with as much fun as we have.”
We have to understand them, forgive them their self-absorbed, hormone-propelled instincts, for they live a life of fresh discoveries. They are astronauts in uncharted space. “Yeah,” they’ll admit, “maybe you old fogies hold each other some.” But real sex, like they show in movies, like youth does it, not that, not their parents, and certainly never their grandparents.
These are thoughts, fantasies that run through my mind as I watch Frank struggling with images of his own. As if to let me off hook, but also to ease out of discomfort I have somewhat mischievously drawn him into, Frank concedes: ”OK, Dr. Lynn, you’re attractive for your age, but really you’re an old foggy.” Oh, it’s put in a light, joking sort of way. But deep in my heart I can hear, maybe not Frank, but certainly voice of modern youth, telling me and my generation: “Go away please, clear playing field, get off to back benches of a retirement community, you old foggy. Don’t tell us your are still doing it. Who do you think you are, and whom do you think you are kidding? How disgusting. Be grown-up. Behave. Act your age. Ugh.”
Life is too hard to do alone,
Dorree Lynn, PH.D.
Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.