Meaning is a choice so why not choose more empowering meanings? Such as:

- I need to change my approach - I can get better by learning a better way - He is having a bad day and is too busy to talk

Decide what rejection really means before it happens and you will feel a lot better about yourself if it does happen.

Like I always say...

Knowing what to say is not just a matter of what words to speak, that is only tip of iceberg, ninety per cent of solution depends on you taking charge of your emotional and mental states.

When you do this you will be able to talk to anyone you meet with same ease you talk to close friends.

One final point...

Are these techniques designed to be used once? No!

These strategies will in time become part of who you are and how you live. Like any skill more you use them better you will get.

Aim to improve slightly each and everyday and you will make huge progress in coming weeks and months. As long as you make it a daily habit.

Doing a little now and again and expecting rapid progress is like exercising once a month and expecting to be slim and fit.

Aim for steady, gradual improvement and you will grow even faster than you expect!

You too need to become better under pressure. Anyone can cope well when things are going well. It is only when you shine under pressure that you prove to yourself and world that you are destined for better things.

2 Exceptional people skills happen at margin.

To go from average to good and from good to excellent is possible in a short time when you make incremental improvements each day.

You do not need to change your personality or go on a two week course. Simply focus on listening skills, on non verbal communication and on building confidence.

Read some good books, get advice from experts and apply what you learn. By making only very slight improvements where it matters most you will quickly develop exceptional people skills.

The very best performers in sport and in business are only marginally better than their closest competitors and these slight margins make all difference between winning and losing.

Aim to make marginal improvements in your ability to communicate with confidence and your results will improve dramatically. Now would be a great time to get started!

3 Say what you mean and mean what you say

Mark Twain famously commented that common sense is not that common and today sincerity and honesty are far from common either.

You can stand out from crowd by making a point of saying what you mean instead of saying what you think people want to hear. Insincerity is a game you can never win as you are always living in fear of getting caught out.

If you follow through on what you say people will respect you for your integrity and you will be known and appreciated as someone who can be counted on.

Be unusual -- hold yourself to a high standard of integrity and commit to saying what you mean and doing what you say you will.

When you live like this each day other people develop confidence in you and in what you say. And success in world gets a whole lot easier with a team of people who believe in you paving road ahead.