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5. The Gift of Undivided Attention
Couples: Give your partner
gift of undivided attention and see if she or he doesn't find that most romantic thing going.
Singles: Give yourself gift of your own undivided attention. Take away all of distractions and be with yourself way you would want your partner to be with you.
6. Gift of Communication, I
Couples: Men, allow your woman to talk about whatever her heart desires, and listen. Ladies, let your man talk or answer your question without finishing his sentences for him, interrupting him, or moving on to next topic. See if this doesn't make sparks fly.
Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen to your own thoughts and feelings or to journal.
7. Gift of Communication, II
Couples: Ladies, give your man gift of sitting down next to him in silence. No talking allowed. Men, give your lady gift of talking and sharing from your heart. No closing down, walling up or running away allowed.
Singles: Either silence or open heart, give yourself whichever one you need.
8. A Gift with Interest
Couples: Is your partner into computers, and you don't know a mouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening, but to you a rose is just a rose? Give your partner gift of your interest in something that is important to him or her. Go ahead, ask your partner a question about it and see smile light up his or her face.
Singles: Give yourself gift of time to pursue your important interests. Take time to do something that nourishes you and makes you happy.
9. The Trust
Couples: Ladies, give man in your life gift of trusting him to know how and when to take care of himself and you. Trust that he will do best he can for Valentine's Day. Gentlemen, hold her trust sacred, and learn to listen for subtle requests. Then honor them. The celebration of love will feel good to both of you.
Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today, trust that you too will be loved and cherished by a partner. Today, remember all people who already love and cherish you.
10. A Shower of Words
Couples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and read it to them on Valentine's Day. Here come tears.
Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly way you would want it written by a lover. Read it to yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready.
Plan to have a happy Valentine's Day!
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com
(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"
With nearly a decade of relationship coaching experience, Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works with singles to help them attract their ideal relationship, and helps couples create more love and fulfillment in their existing relationships. Visit her web site at www.WhatItTakes.com or e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
