Nourish Your Soul

Written by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.


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You can discover your soul food by listening torepparttar yearnings of your soul, by being still and tuning into your deepest voice within. Your soul will guide you to what it needs. Donít ignore it and donít put it off. Once you learn what you need, nourish it on a regular basis. If we neglect our soul then it becomes hungry and searches for food inrepparttar 131476 wrong places, which is destructive to our lives and zaps us of our life sustaining energy.

After years and years of neglect one becomes disconnected from their soul and gets lost. Our world is sadly full of people who neglect their souls andrepparttar 131477 consequences of this are seen all around us inrepparttar 131478 level of addictions, violence, crime, depression, suicide, lack of compassion and respect for one another, divorce and destruction of our planet exhibited in our society. Our culture has not been very good at teaching us how to avoid this, perhaps because we were unaware for a long period of time, but slowly this is changing one by one.

Donít neglect your soul! Listen to it, nourish it, and feed it everyday. It is as important as feeding your hungry stomach. If you have neglected your soul, it is never too late to start again. The soul has an amazing ability to recover and flourish in splendor once again.

This article may be FREELY copied, reproduced and redistributed to friends, discussion lists, websites, groups, etc., as long asrepparttar 131479 whole article is used including my byline and links found here atrepparttar 131480 bottom. Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., writer, educator, therapist/advisor/coach and Holistic Health Consultant Specializing in Life Management and Support for Living with Chronic Illness, Chronic Pain, and Disability as well as Sexuality and Sexual Intimacy. FREE Newsletter and FREE 30 minute Consultation. http://www.holistichelp.net http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul



Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., writer, educator, therapist/advisor/coach and Holistic Health Consultant Specializing in Life Management and Support for Living with Chronic Illness, Chronic Pain, and Disability as well as Sexuality and Sexual Intimacy. FREE Newsletter and FREE 30 minute Consultation. http://www.holistichelp.net http://www.holistichelp.net/sexandsoul




Getting Past the Arguments - an article on resolving conflict in relationships

Written by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist


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Try not to get bogged down in intellectual answers. Even if you know repparttar answers, see if you can connect to your feelings about it and notice whether any other thoughts,feelings, associations, or memories come to you spontaneously. Sometimesrepparttar 131474 best stuff just suddenly occurs to us.

Next, find an opportunity when you and your lover aren't rushed or distracted, and share how you are feeling aboutrepparttar 131475 issue. When mentioning something about her/his behavior that affects you, phrase it within your own experience ("When I think that you are not listening to me I feel...I then worry that...it reminds me of...which feels... to me).

Even when you want to mention something that your lover does, focus on you and your deeper responses. You may want to ask for something specific ("Could we set aside times to listen to each other?") which your lover can consider, but initially it is usually best to have you and your lover listen to and understand each others' deeper responses.

You might be tempted to leap to a solution, but this is onlyrepparttar 131476 beginning. If you settle on a solution too quickly, you could miss something that still needs to be unearthed.

The listener's job is to listen attentively and to verbalize understanding forrepparttar 131477 other's feelings, regardless of whether or notrepparttar 131478 listener agrees with her/his lover's perception ofrepparttar 131479 events. For example, maybe you think that you'rerepparttar 131480 one who's always listening to your lover, and it is s/he who doesn't listen to you. It's okay that you do not agree with her/his version of reality, but for now, offer only your understanding of how s/he feels and what it means to her/him. It is important that you suspend your difference of opinion and only offer understanding.

When you're finished with that, switch roles. Feel free, asrepparttar 131481 one who just listened, to say somethng like "When I hear you say that, I feel...because I believe that I do listen....This reminds me of...and I feel...and I don't know what else to do. I feel that you don't listen to me. When this happens I feel...." It's important to not argue about who does or doesn't listen, or what you each do, but rather,repparttar 131482 original speaker should now listen and offer understanding for how it must feel. Keep going back and forth and see what happens. You may not notice anything for a while, but you might. If you don't, try not to worry or rushrepparttar 131483 process; something usually shifts over time, especially if you keep going deeper. You never know what you might discover - it may be a completely different issue than you originally thought. Only by staying with your deeper feelings and reactions will you discover what is underneathrepparttar 131484 arguments.

By each of you truly understandingrepparttar 131485 others' perspective without judgement, you'll be able to move through this barrier in your relationship. Stick withrepparttar 131486 formula, even if it feels unnatural, and you may find thatrepparttar 131487 two of you are laughing about what startedrepparttar 131488 whole disagreement.

Kali Munro, M.Ed., is an online therapist with a private practice in Toronto. She provides free online resources including self-help articles, e-books, self-quizzes, and inspirational quotes and poetry at her website, http://www.KaliMunro.com She facilitates an online discussion board too.

Her specialties include relationships, sexual abuse, lesbians, and gay men, dissociation and PTSD. You can email her at mailto:email@KaliMunro.com


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