Nourish Your Soul

Written by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

(c)2001 Nourish- to feed or sustain with substances necessary for life or growth; to promote growth; to maintain or support; to nurture.

Soul-repparttar immaterial essence, animating principle or actuating cause of an individual;repparttar 131476 spiritual principle embodied in human beings, all rational and spiritual beings orrepparttar 131477 universe; a personís total self.

The holistic health field abounds with articles and books all teaching a variety of ways to nurture our souls. What exactly does all this mean and why is so important?

Our soul beingrepparttar 131478 very essence of whom and what we are is our life force and therefore it needs food on a regular basis to sustain us and prevent us from becoming stagnant and unfulfilled with life.

So what is nourishing torepparttar 131479 soul? The things that make you feel whole, alive, and one withrepparttar 131480 universe (or God) is your soul food. This will vary from individual to individual, as our souls are very unique and complex, although many of us have some commonalities. Some common sources of soul food are nature, music, dancing, deep relationships, meditation, walking, prayer and many more.

My most important source of soul food is nature. Doing things like spending time byrepparttar 131481 lake, taking walks and country rides, admiring repparttar 131482 cloud formations, feeding and watchingrepparttar 131483 birds, feeding a stray cat, gazing atrepparttar 131484 stars and moon is what is most nourishing me. Nature is my lifeline. It rejuvenates me and helps me to go on. It makes me feel alive, full of life and connected torepparttar 131485 universe. There is nothing more nourishing to me than spending a day on a blanket by my favorite lake and being intimate with nature, especially on a warm fall day whenrepparttar 131486 leaves are bursting with color. Spending it with someone I love and engaging in deep conversation is even better. Writing, reading, certain types of music and singing along, dancing, deep relationships and prayer also nurture me.

Getting Past the Arguments - an article on resolving conflict in relationships

Written by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist

One ofrepparttar hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clearrepparttar 131474 air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive. Fights that never go anywhere, that are repeated year after year, or that leave you feeling awful about yourself are not going to help your relationship. Those arerepparttar 131475 kinds of fights we need to take another look at, and find out what is going on underneath. This is true for any conflict that doesn't feel right, not just those you have with your lover.

With most fights, there are layers of what we mean, feel, intend, hope for, and believe, and what we actually say. We may only say a little of how we feel, or we may even sayrepparttar 131476 opposite of how we're feeling on a much deeper level thanrepparttar 131477 surface. Problems arise when we don't come fromrepparttar 131478 deeper levels.

Some people think thatrepparttar 131479 top layer of what they feel and think is all that there is, yet they feel something's missing in their relationship. Others know how they feel but instead of stating their feelings as their own, they blame how they feel on their lover, leading to hurt feelings and arguing that goes nowhere. This is oftenrepparttar 131480 time that people call it quits on a relationship.

Many break-ups occur because we do not know how to get to our inner depth, or getting to it, how to share it. What we want to say isn't what comes out of our mouths. We argue about something meaningless in order to get space from our lover, rather than feelrepparttar 131481 anxiety or fear we may have about setting boundaries or looking at what we need. We argue to feel more alive, instead of looking at what is missing in our life. We argue about what our lover spent money on, rather than face our own issues about money. We argue as a way to control our lover, rather than face our fear of being controlled.

Regardless ofrepparttar 131482 content ofrepparttar 131483 argument, until we are prepared to express and respect our lover's deeper feelings, beliefs, and meanings (and s/he respects ours), very little change can take place.

We can work around our lover's "sensitive points," expect them to do repparttar 131484 same for us, and make compromises, but how far does that really take us? While problem-solving can help, particularly inrepparttar 131485 immediate future, often it isn't enough forrepparttar 131486 long run. As long asrepparttar 131487 deeper issues remain unaddressed, our relationship will be flattened, soured, or lost to meaningless fights.

So how do you get underneathrepparttar 131488 arguments? By being vulnerable and risking being as open and as honest about yourself as you can with your lover. Take anything you argue about and ask yourself what is upsetting you. Usually people will respond with answers that are about their lovers - s/he spends too much money, s/he is defensive, s/he doesn't listen to me. Now try asking yourselfrepparttar 131489 following questions:

*what about that bothers you? *how do you feel about it? *how do you react to it, and what does it mean to you? *what if anything are you afraid of? *what do you believe it means about you or your relationship? *does it remind you of anyone?

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