* Who is responsible for repairs to apartment? If you move into an apartment complex, there are usually maintenance people to take care of all needed repairs. On other hand if you are renting from a private landlord, you may be responsible for part or all of repairs.

* Are late fees addressed in lease?

* Who is responsible for utilities?

* What happens if you cause damage to apartment?

If you want to make a change to lease, cross out clause in question. Then both you and landlord must initial change for it to be binding.

dan the roommate

8. How quiet and respectful of each other are we going to be when one of us is sleeping or studying?

Talk to one another about:

What do you do for fun.

Where you are from.

How you grew up.

What your favorite things are.

What your major is.

What your career goals are.

What some of your likes and dislikes are.

What things you each can do to make living environment great for both of you.

Rules for good discussion:

Focus on behavior- not your roommate.

"Own" your feelings. No one can make you feel something- you choose to feel that way.

Try and listen to your roommate's perspective. Let him/her speak without interruption.

Make sure you understand what is being said. Never assume anything.

Remember that this is not a win lose situation. The goal is to find some kind of compromise with which you can all live. Try to be as objective and rational as possible.

If emotions are running too high, take a break and talk again later.

Try to get to heart of problem right away. Don't waste time on little details of concern.

Try to remain calm.

dan the roommate man