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If you long for a partner who is wholeheartedly behind you, ask yourself, are you
same partner? Do you give what you seek in your relationship? Ironically, many lack
qualities they seek in their partners. Listen to your heart and when it feels right, feel
fear and love anyway. Love without hesitation and with all you heart. Don’t let your fear of rejection or getting hurt kill your desires or steal your dreams. You may have stared in
face of love before. Maybe you “chickened-out.” Next time, don’t be a chicken!
Love is choice and if you choose it wholeheartedly, you are never going to lose it. Love teaches you to become a better human being. Restore your faith in love and become emotionally available to each other. Put your fears and your past behind you. Become lovable by being loving. Learn to trust by trusting yourself. Here is
number one reason for losing yourself in a relationship: Your belief that love is something you either deserve or not! This misguided belief leads you to do almost anything to get love and even more to hold onto it:
·You modify your identity to gain approval from your partner. ·You hold back intimacy to protect yourself. ·You have a need to manipulate your partner.
If you can believe that there is nothing ypu have to be or do to earn love, you will accept that:
·You can be loved even if you are not perfect ·You can be loved while keeping your course in life ·You can be loved without getting lost in love
Love is
most powerful human lesson you will ever learn. It is a purposeful interdependence through which you become so much more than on your own. Love is not something to be found, rather it is in you to share, you can love wholeheartedly. Don’t turn your back on love every time it touches you, because when you give up on love you give up on yourself.
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