Because you're changing at midlife, it's a good time to take stock, weed out dreams that no longer suit you, and start planting seeds for new dreams.

One of best things you can do at this time of life is give yourself permission to dream different dreams and forget about old ones that did or didn't come true.

We tend to believe that success can only come from understanding, but in reality our brains, when presented with ample opportunity, can unconsciously extract underlying rules. "Such knowledge," say Lewis, Amini, and Lannon, "develops with languorous ease and inevitability, stubbornly inexpressibly, never destined for translation into words."

Things we can't describe, but we "know," come from our implicit memory which provides this "camouflaged learning." Spoken language, for instance, is a complicated set sounds and rules we couldn't possibly describe; yet we all learn to speak it as kids with no formal instruction.

In his book, _Language Instinct_, Steven Pinker observes that we all know that "thole, plast and flitch are not English words but they could be, whereas vlas, ptak, and nyip cannot be English. How? Well, just because, but wouldn't you agree?

The advantages of intuition? It's much quicker and surer. You have a greater grasp on reality, as it were, when you don't confuse things by bringing in neocortex. "Reason," said Pascal, "is slow and tortuous method by which those who do not know truth discover it."

We all have it and we can http://www.topten.org/public/BA/BA623.html develop it. Work with a coach, invite your intuition into your life, and pump up volume.

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