Midlife Dating: Filling Your Social Calendar

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Personal Life Coach


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CHURCH SINGLES GROUPS & SUNDAY SCHOOL CLASSES

Many churches and religious institutions actively minister to singles and offer Sunday School classes, Bible study, small groups, social events, and volunteer opportunities. Ask other singles whererepparttar good ones are, and call around to some churches to see what they offer singles.

SPEED DATING OR PRE-DATING

Speed dating or pre-dating is another option. Either in-person at a public location, or by phone and Internet, you meet people in your age and interest category in short (6 minutes?) “pre-dates”. (See www.pre-dating.com .)

“We facilitaterepparttar 129589 whole thing,” say these folks, who schedule events in various cities throughoutrepparttar 129590 US, “so there’s no awkwardness, no pressure, no embarrassment and no games … just great fun!” Couples who indicate a mutual interest are given each other’s contact information afterrepparttar 129591 event.

Here are some ofrepparttar 129592 categories: Singles (ages 40-49); Jewish Singles, Single Parents, Interracial (White Men/Black Women), Latin/Speakers of Spanish Singles; Younger Women (25-39) / Older Men (40-55), Younger Men (25-37) / Older Women (38-49), Athletic Singles, East / West Indian Singles, Marriage Minded Singles, Smokers / Smoker Tolerant Singles, Tall Women (5/10”+) / Tall Men, and Singles without Children.

Sample venue? Complimentary quesadilla bar and happy hour drink specials from 4:30 – 7:30 p.m., held on a Wednesday night, cost is around $35. They say you’ll connect with about 10-12 people.

What if you fit one category but want to date within another? Say you’re a 60 year old man who likes to date 25 year olds, or a tall women who prefers short men? Pre-dating.com says they “favor diversity” and will try to accommodate, but only allow about 1 in 10 to be out-of-category.

Initially I thought this mode best for extraverts who loverepparttar 129593 frenzy and sheer numbers, but introverts could also do well because they’re perceptive and get a chance to visit one-on-one, which is their forte.

DANCING

Dancing is great fun and exercise, and a great way to meet new people of all ages. Check out local dance venues to see if they’re offering dance classes. You can brush up on your skills at a local dancing school, and also meet other singles there.

Or take group lessons at local dance halls which offer them free (or for little) early inrepparttar 129594 evening to help fill uprepparttar 129595 place on “off” nights. Evenrepparttar 129596 fabled Bill Bob’s offers dance lessons on Thursday nights, in their case bringing in national talent to teach it, but if your town’s like mine, you’ll be amazed atrepparttar 129597 local talent.

To locate a dancing teacher near you, go here: http://www.dancespots.net/Find/FindATeacher.asp?SE=Y .

CONCLUSION

These are just a few ofrepparttar 129598 ways you can put yourself around other single people in a more structured way and get a jump on a social life. Active participation allows you to meet other singles, possibly for dating, while also meeting friends, enjoying your life, going new places, trying new things, learning new skills, and having fun.

©Susan Dunn, MA, Midlife Dating and Relationship Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Offering coaching for men and women in dating, transitions, retirement and other midlife issues. Susan is the author of “Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women,” available at www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html . Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc .


Addiction to Clutter

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


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When we don’t feel safe onrepparttar inner level, then we try to make ourselves feel safe onrepparttar 129586 outer level, and clutter is one way of doing that. Whether it’s things, such as hair dryers, or information, such as in magazines and newspapers, clutterers do not trust that they will have what they need. In addition, clutterers may be resistant people who see messiness and clutter as a way of not being controlled by someone who wants them to be neat.

HEALING THE ADDICTION TO CLUTTER

Clutter is created and maintained by a wounded, frightened part of oneself,repparttar 129587 wounded self –repparttar 129588 part that operates fromrepparttar 129589 illusion of having control over people, events, and outcomes. As long as this wounded self is in charge ofrepparttar 129590 decisions,repparttar 129591 clutterer will continue to accumulate clutter as a way to provide comfort andrepparttar 129592 illusion of control over feeling safe, or continue to be messy as a way to resist being controlled.

Healing occurs whenrepparttar 129593 individual doesrepparttar 129594 inner work necessary to develop a strong, loving adult self. A loving adult isrepparttar 129595 aspect of us that opens to and connects with a spiritual source of wisdom, strength, and love. A loving adult is capable of taking loving action in our own behalf. The loving adult operates from truth rather than fromrepparttar 129596 false beliefs ofrepparttar 129597 wounded self, and knows thatrepparttar 129598 comfort and safety that clutter seems to provide is an illusion – that no matter how much clutter accumulates,repparttar 129599 clutterer still feels afraid. The loving Adult knows that safety and integrity do not lie in resistance. Only a loving adult who is tuned in torepparttar 129600 guidance provided by a spiritual source and capable of taking loving action in one’s own behalf can create a sense of inner safety.

Practicingrepparttar 129601 six steps of Inner Bonding that we teach develops this powerful loving adult.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.


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