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Reasons for a woman and man to get involved in extra marital relation may be as I feel:
1.Powerful emotional and physical attraction of a colleague or other associate pulls mind and heart to submit. 2.Dissatisfaction and boring emotional and physical relation with spouse leads extra marital relation. Dull life especially women live in home waiting long-long for spouse. 3.Lack of motivation for deep involvement in home activities. 4.Fading spouse’s sexual attraction is a step to establish extra marital relation. 5.For woman it is also revenge spouse in cruel relation. 6.Genetic characteristics of individual for emotional and sexual desire for more sex, variety, addiction, curiosity, drawing opposite sex’s attention to become special. 7.Open mind for relation. “Ok, I do not mind having extra relation as we now in modern society”. 8.Weak and submissive behaviour to submit to other’s intentions.
Every one is honest as long as doesn’t get opportunity. Most prefer to follow social norms and do not act, who act are either careless or their necessity or desire overcomes society norms. It does not mean those who follow social norms are honest, they too have feelings and desires which they repress in order to avoid facing social consequences, indicates they are emotionally prepared for relation but social boundaries do not permit. It is emotional suicide in order to avoid physical suicide; each of us has a desire for fulfilment of emotional and physical needs because our body and brain cells require them for smooth functioning. In absence of emotional and physical attachment, our entity forces us to understand necessity, so when meet suitable person brain cells react to inform us, act as this is a need in order to avoid miserable and dull life. We act by direction of entity and brain in order to fulfil its requirements depending on character. Both social accountability and entity clash in our mind, which ever overpowers directs us to act. For women; in most cases social accountability comes forward and she murders own desires. She indulges only in case of awful relation or vengeance or too strong attraction conquers her.
For cheated partner it is infidelity as long as cheater is living and sharing family affairs. It is natural that no one would wish partner to share sexual emotions and relation with someone else, it hurts and gives pain to heart as both are assets of each other. Relation breaks as no one would prefer to stay together with dishonest companion unless one is so grateful to forgive and forget dishonesty. As long as there are wife and husband and marriage; extra marital relation will be illegal – deceitful and will be called “INFIDELITY”. As for both wife and husband, it is an issue of dependability, security, emotion of togetherness as wife and husband, sharing and sacrificing life to maintain family and status pop and mom. Women are more concerned as family is their security, togetherness and life. All dreams of family and its future collapses in case of any one switches to extra marital relation. This becomes dishonesty married family. Each of find reasons as why did she/he go for it was he/she not happy. If not, why? What can I or children do for it? I feel some as: 1.In order to avoid partner diverting mind invite and motivate his/her deep involvement in family activities. 2.Revitalize faded attraction of home and self this is magnet prevents from thinking others. Lifeless homes are not homes. 3.Thinking home and kids before getting attracted to strong characters will restrict to limitations. 4.Emotional involvement of partner towards family by reminding responsibilities and emotional touch up. 5.Psychological treatment of weak character of sexually addicted partner. 6.Respect identity and integrity of a partner. 7.Wrong and cruel atmosphere of home is instigation to find better. 8.Many women in offices are influenced by bosses for sexual favour. This uncommon behaviour is common in many offices. Under these circumstances husband is best to advise to tackle situation, risking job is no matter if husband prefers to handle legally with such people. Link to this article: http://www.sadashivan.com/marriagedreamswhenfails/id2.html
Marriage is portrayed as fortune that people wait anxiously for moment to enter married life. Celebrations and custom rituals add up spice to more tasteful marriage. Dream to have identity as own family and children and who should I live with are the first choice. Each one whether man or woman has a dream and anticipation for his/her future partner that he/ she should look like this and etc. The dream what is stored in self is LOVE.