Disciplining with love usually incorporates some level of understanding. We need to understand developmental milestones in each stage of our child’s life. When we compare his actions to actions of average child in his age group then we can better understand if his behavior is appropriate or not. For instance, a seven month old banging on a glass table may receive a different parental feedback versus an eight year old doing same action. What we deem appropriate for our young children, we can also deem inappropriate for our older children. At times it is also easy for us to confuse self-exploration with aggression and misbehavior.

Disciplining with love helps us to bond with our children by giving them security that they need. By being consistent with our rules and consequences, we are showing our children that we are responsible, credible parents. Consistency is a difficult part of discipline since it is area most tested by our children. Being consistent also takes a lot of patience and perseverance. Our emotions can sometimes get in way of consistency and we let things slide when we are happy but we always reprimand when we feel miserable.

When we discipline with love we try to stay connected to our kids. We focus on behavior and not character of child. We try to change bad behavior without making child himself feel like he is bad. We aim to explain cause and effect of a situation before resorting to time-out and seclusion. We try to understand reason for behavior. Is behavior caused by a need for attention? Is child displaying some behavior seen at daycare or at school? Is child being bullied on playground? As parents we are our child’s best advocate. Taking a loving approach to discipline helps strengthen communication bond between you and your child. It assures child that in times of need you will be there.

What types of skills are learned by playing toddler computer games? Obviously, computer software is not suitable for practicing gross motor or even fine motor skills. However, there are many types of educational concepts that computer games can help a child master, including shapes, sounds, cause and effect, identifying and naming things (such as objects and colors), increasing vocabulary, language concepts, forms of letters and numbers, counting, pattern recognition, detail observation and word construction. At KiddiesGames, we strive to offer games for small children that are out of ordinary, such as foreign language exposure and practicing positions on telephone for dialing emergency. The reactiveness and interactiveness of computer software is, of course, superior to that of books, and can be superior to that of toys, especially in area of language. Infant computer games are also being cited as excellent resources for children with special education needs, because such games are simple, happy, brightly-colored, patient, controlled by child and allow child to make things happen.

An official recommendation from American Academy of Pediatrics at http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics%3B107/2/423 is to “Discourage television viewing for children younger than 2 years, and encourage more interactive activities that will promote proper brain development, such as talking, playing, singing, and reading together.” This has been taken as advice to avoid exposing those young children to computer. However, well-designed infant software actually encourages those great activities of “talking, playing, singing, and reading together”. By carrying out play activities proposed by computer game, caregiver is actually prompted with a framework or script for carrying out those “talking, playing, singing, and reading” activities with child. Experts are now saying that while computer games for infants should not replace toys and blocks and books and should not be used as an electronic babysitter, that they are yet another valid toy resource. For example, a summer 2004 newsletter from Hawaii State Health Department at http://www.hawaii.gov/health/family-child-health/eis/summer2004 encourages playing with lapware. The emphasis is not on acquiring measurable skills or getting correct answers, but is on open-ended exploration on part of child – which is another way of saying “having fun”. Children are programmed to learn and practice what they learned by playing and having fun.

Playing computer games with your small child is not yet a family tradition. However, it is an enjoyable, sharing activity that is becoming more and more popular.