Make Your Life EasierWritten by David Wood
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Surrender 3 This is my favourite - names changed to protect guilty!One of my good friends - George - was complaining to me about his roommate. 'I've tried everything to get her to clean. I've created lists of jobs, we've created cleaning schedules, and I've tried cleaning more as an example. Nothing is working, and it's driving me nuts!'. Clearly he was trying to control situation - sound familiar? But more he tried to get her to clean, more excuses she came up with - and this guy is a powerful coach! When I asked him why he didn't just move out, he replied: 'But I love her to death. And other than this, I love living with her'. So together we created a completely ~opposite~ approach. The art of fun surrender. And here's what he went back to his roommate with: 'Jill, I love living with you. And I love you. I've been so hung up on this cleaning issue I've lost sight of that. I want you to know that if you never clean another thing I this house I'll be fine with that - in fact I'll handle it. I'm just glad you're my roommate'. Again - key is he meant it. He realised that doing all cleaning wasn't that big a deal for him, and he'd much rather have her in his life than 'get his way' over cleaning. All he had to do was give up his position - to give up being 'right' about it. And result? He s still got an awesome friend in his life, not to mention peace! OK - enough examples. Let's take a look at your neck of woods: Exercise: Apply This to YOUR Life' If you would like to completely eliminate a problem from your life - something that's been draining you, then try these three simple steps: 1) Notice where you are 'pushing' Are you arguing your point? Have you tried everything and person still won't change? Do they not seem to be listening, or just ignore you? Are you desperately trying to get to sleep (fighting yourself)? Have you complained about it more than twice in one week? More than ten times this year? 2) Ask yourself: 'What if they did that forever, and I was OK with it? If I embraced it?' 3) Choose an action ~you~ can do that would handle it, instead of them having to handle it. Before you may have argued, got upset or stressed out. But now - what could you do that would just handle/accept issue? To take responsibility for it? Not because you have to, but because it's more fun and will create more peace in your life? This week, make your life and someone else's life easier. Who's lucky person? And I'd love to hear what you come up with! Just zip me an email...I can keep it confidential, or with your permission even share it in next month's newsletter. Enjoy, David Wood
David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download “50 Power Questions” and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm
| | The Power - How To Make This Your Best Week EverWritten by Clyde Dennis
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To help you understand where I’m coming from here’s a little background. Internally I turn everything into a game. A game between Clyde I want to be and know that I am and that Clyde that wants to get loose and reek havoc in my life. Simply put—the good Clyde and not so good Clyde. The not so good Clyde is always attempting to goad good Clyde into committing a foul or playing outside rules. Always sending in thoughts like "you can’t do that, you’re not good enough!" Or reminding me of a time when I may not have met my own standard. And to make game even more interesting not so good Clyde often gets help from fans in stands in form of slights and mean intentioned put downs. Ah, but good Clyde is well aware of these little tricks of game and understands that if he doesn’t allow himself to feel anyway about these negative messages good Clyde wins, not so good Clyde loses. End of game. Friends if you’re still riding that emotional roller coaster of good days, bad days I just wanted to let you know it doesn’t have to be that way. Go out and make this your best week ever! You’ve got power. Are you going to use it? Live some. Love some. Learn some. Everyday. C...
Clyde Dennis, a.k.a. "Mr. How-To" has been writing and publishing Articles and Newsletters online since 1999. Clyde's company EASYHow-To Publications provides "How-To" information on How-To do, be or have just about anything one can imagine. For more information visit http://www.EASYHow-To.com. Email correspondence for Clyde should be sent to: cdennis at easyhow-to.com
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