Letting Go Of Wanting Your Own Approval

Written by Peter Murphy

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There are many ways to boost your opinion of yourself. I recently discovered that just letting go of wanting your own approval works really well. Simply ask yourselfrepparttar following question:

Could I let go of wanting my own approval?

Sounds too simple to work. I know! It works if and only if you askrepparttar 102044 question with your attention on your feeling response not onrepparttar 102045 answer that pops into your head. Our goal is to let go ofrepparttar 102046 limiting feelings, this is not a mental exercise.

Spend twenty minutes concentrating on this question. Askrepparttar 102047 question again and again, and each time just notice your feeling response before askingrepparttar 102048 question again. After twenty minutes you can expect to feel lighter and more at peace with yourself. Your breathing may also change and it is likely to become deeper and more relaxed.

The effect of letting go of wanting your approval is that you releaserepparttar 102049 limitations that stop you from approving of yourself and you are left with what you wanted - your own approval.

You can also ask yourselfrepparttar 102050 question, could I let go of wanting my own approval?... anytime you need to communicate at your best to make a good impression. Just say it softly to yourself under your breath or quietly inside your head. Askrepparttar 102051 question, notice your feeling response, and repeatrepparttar 102052 process again and again.

By approving completely of yourself you will not be concerned with winningrepparttar 102053 approval of your listeners and ironically people will tend to reflect this approval back to you since they will take you at your own value.

Now, go and prove this for yourself!

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The Boss Knows All And Is Everywhere

Written by Richard Lowe

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There was nothing wrong here, nothing that Kevin was doing needed to be corrected. I knew that Kevin would get around to finishingrepparttar system before too long ... but I wanted him to know, as well, that I knew what was going on. A gentle nudge was all it took to get Lori taken care of, as well as to deliverrepparttar 102043 message that I had other information sources than justrepparttar 102044 one's that Kevin knew about.

Remember to keep in touch with other people as well, although perhaps not as often. You should talk to vendors, business partners, peers, and anyone else that might come in contact with your people. Just talk to them (these are not interrogations) and file awayrepparttar 102045 comments in your mind forrepparttar 102046 appropriate time.

Of course, if during these conversations you find out anything that does need to be handled, then by all means do it.

What isrepparttar 102047 purpose of all of this? It's very straightforward. You are building up respect. You see, a boss that knows what's happening at all times is much more likely to be obeyed and respected than one who is not. It's hard to respect someone who is ignorant.

It's very easy and actually quite fun when you getrepparttar 102048 hang of it. Sometimesrepparttar 102049 shocked look on someone's face when you indicate that you knew about such and such is a reward all on it's own.

How do you use this information? Get intorepparttar 102050 habit of asking your people questions. You might ask them how they feel about their workplace environment or whether their work is challenging enough for them (this shows that you care). Then you might commend them for working an extra hour a few days ago (howrepparttar 102051 heck did you know that,repparttar 102052 employee will think). You might ask another employee else howrepparttar 102053 food was at Black Angusrepparttar 102054 day before, or ask ifrepparttar 102055 employee needed help onrepparttar 102056 Anderson project.

You seerepparttar 102057 technique? You are asking your people for their opinions and feelings, which means that you care about them. You know what's going on, which means they are much less likely to do something wrong, as they understand that you will find out (there will be no doubt in their minds).

Simply put, you respect your people enough to keep in touch with them, and they will return that respect a hundred times over.

And that's all there is to that.

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