Infidelity Excuse: I fell out of Love...and just love being in love

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach


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5. The person “looking for love” is actually looking forrepparttar ideal, someone out there, who will project back to him/her that he/she is OK. No, more than OK, close to perfect.

6. This person needs to be adored, or think another adores him/her, because there is a lack of inner strength and solid identity. The other becomes my world, because I lack a world. Being “in love” isrepparttar 146283 panacea for my emptiness.

7. Sexual intercourse does not need to be a part of these relationships. Sexual activity may indeed ENDrepparttar 146284 relationship or at least move it torepparttar 146285 point whererepparttar 146286 attractors become, again,repparttar 146287 distracters. The idealized images may be held together by long phone calls, gifts, holding, love letters, e-mails, etc.

8. This type of affair often occurs when there is a “lull” inrepparttar 146288 marriage relationship. The responsibility of raising children, starting and maintaining a career, paying bills, etc. becomerepparttar 146289 focal point forrepparttar 146290 couple. Romance becomes a foreign word. People are especially vulnerable for this type of affair afterrepparttar 146291 children are in school and/orrepparttar 146292 oldest child reaches early adolescence. (There are good reasons for this, from a family systems perspective, but I won’t get into that here.)

Tip: If your spouse is struggling with this type of relationship, make sure you hold and care for your self. Your spouse does not haverepparttar 146293 capacity to do this for you (or anyone) at this point. Yes, you are ok. Her/his affair says less about you and much more aboutrepparttar 146294 emptiness within her/him. It is time for you to know you better. Model for him/her what it means to be a person with a core, with integrity, with boundaries, with values, with meaning, with purpose and actively figure out what your needs are, and get them met. Maybe she will ask questions. Maybe she will not. Maybe soon. Maybe later.

For more information onrepparttar 146295 different kinds of affairs, what causes them,repparttar 146296 probabilities of them ending a marriage and what you can do about it, visit my site.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/cmd.php?ad=139627


The Revenge Affair: Characteristics of the Adulterer

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach


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5. Engages in teasing.

6. Can be stubborn and unyielding.

7. May often take oppositional view and pride himself on being contrary or taking an unpopular stance.

8. Can have moments of impulsive behavior and be labeled high-strung or tightly wired.

9. Has an underlying worldview that is pessimistic. Glass is half empty.

10. Has a tendency to wine or complain.

11. May have moments of sullenness and dejection.

12. Women may respond very intensely during their menstrual cycle. Men may appear very moody at certain times ofrepparttar month.

13. Manipulates others with unpredictability and demandingness.

14. Family of origin often marked by factions and sibling rivalry.

15. Has difficulty with intimacy since her behavior patterns push people away.

If you are interested in learning aboutrepparttar 146282 6 other forms of infidelity I outline in my book, "Break Free Fromrepparttar 146283 Affair," visit my website.



Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/cmd.php?ad=139627


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