Independence Day - Free Your Mind

Written by Kathy Paauw

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One ofrepparttar best illustrations ofrepparttar 124074 power of "inside-out" came to me when I was a child. I went to seerepparttar 124075 movie Papillon. For those not familiar with this story, Henri Charriere was a Frenchman who was convicted in 1931 of a murder he did not commit. Sentenced to life imprisonment, he spent 12 years inrepparttar 124076 penal colony of French Guiana. After eight unsuccessful attempts to escape, he finally got away to Venezuela. More than 20 years later, when he was 60, Charriere wrote his story, which became an international best seller and was made into a movie. One scene fromrepparttar 124077 movie has stuck with me all these years. Charriere was locked in a dark, small cell in solitary confinement almost 24 hours a day. The only living things sharingrepparttar 124078 tiny prison cell with him wererepparttar 124079 roaches. He chose to make these roaches his "friends" and actually looked forward to seeing them onrepparttar 124080 occasions when a beam of light would come into his cell so he could see.

Now, if you're like me, I was taught that roaches were not my friends. This scene inrepparttar 124081 movie taught me a very important lesson in life: It is not our circumstances that make or break us, but rather our response to those circumstances. Jack Canfield illustrates this beautifully in his book, How to Build High Self-Esteem, by sharing this simple equation: E (experience) + R (response) = O (outcome).

In Charriere's case,repparttar 124082 experience was that he was imprisoned in solitary confinement in a very small roach- infested cell with little or no light. The response was that he chose to think ofrepparttar 124083 roaches as welcomed guests in his home -- his way of honoring his own value of having companionship in his life. The outcome was that he was able to maintain his sanity by invitingrepparttar 124084 roaches to provide him withrepparttar 124085 companionship he so desperately craved while in solitary confinement. Had Charriere's response been different, I'm certain he would have experienced a completely different outcome. As I recall,repparttar 124086 movie paralleled Charriere's life with that of another prisoner inrepparttar 124087 same penal colony. Althoughrepparttar 124088 two prisoners shared similar experiences, their responses were quite different. The other man ended up losing his sanity and dying during an attempt to escape.

Although we may never find ourselves in Charriere's circumstances, I believe most of us are mentally imprisoned by our own response to experiences in our lives. When we experience emotions like fear, anger, and jealousy, we have chosen thoughts that put us inrepparttar 124089 smallest of jail cells. These emotions completely paralyze our freedom of choice.

We haverepparttar 124090 ability to be completely at choice about how we see things, how we feel, and what we do as a result. In Stephen Covey's book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, he explains how these things are all connected: Our paradigms --repparttar 124091 lens through which we view things -- inform our thoughts. Our thoughts inform our feelings. Our feelings inform our response. Our response affectsrepparttar 124092 outcome. This explains how two people working from different paradigms can experiencerepparttar 124093 same event and yet experience completely different outcomes. To illustrate, Stephen Covey tells of an experience he once had:

Mr. Covey was sitting on a New York subway one quiet Sunday morning when a man and his children got on his subway car. The man sat down next to Covey and closed his eyes, while his children immediately began yelling back and forth, throwing things, and even grabbing people's papers. Althoughrepparttar 124094 children were being very disruptive,repparttar 124095 father made no attempt to control his kids. It appeared that he was oblivious torepparttar 124096 situation. Covey grew more irritated byrepparttar 124097 minute. Clearly everyone else onrepparttar 124098 subway felt irritated, too. So Covey finally turned torepparttar 124099 man and said, "Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you couldn't control them a little more?" The father lifted his gaze as he became conscious torepparttar 124100 situation, and he said, "Oh, you're right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came fromrepparttar 124101 hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don't know what to think, and I guess they don't know how to handle it either." At this point, Covey shifted from feeling irritated and judgmental to feeling compassion, concern, and empathy. In other words, as Covey got more information, it shifted his paradigm, which shiftedrepparttar 124102 way he thought aboutrepparttar 124103 situation, which shifted his feelings aboutrepparttar 124104 man and his children. And all of these shifts helped Covey to choose a different response, which changedrepparttar 124105 outcome for both Covey andrepparttar 124106 other man.

Kathy Paauw, a certified business/personal coach and organizing/productivity consultant, specializes in helping busy executives, professionals, and entrepreneurs declutter their schedules, spaces and minds. Contact her at or visit her website at and learn how you can Find ANYTHING in 5 Seconds --Guaranteed!

Finding Inspiration to Realise Your Dreams and Ambitions

Written by Pamela Heywood

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OK, they seem to think that us "normal folk" cant do this. You don't want to listen, but you hear them and some fears start creeping into your mind. What if they are right? Yeah, so what? Accept that YES, they could be, but don't let them project their fears onto you. That's them. They probably aren't prepared to put inrepparttar work, whereas, if you are reading this, we can presume you are -- and that's halfrepparttar 124073 battle licked already.

Failure or learning? It's a question of attitude

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed byrepparttar 124074 things you didn't do than byrepparttar 124075 ones you did do. So throw offrepparttar 124076 bowlines. Sail away fromrepparttar 124077 safe harbor. Catchrepparttar 124078 trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. - Mark Twain

Focus merely on doing what's right for you, now, (even if you sufferrepparttar 124079 consequences) for only you can regret not trying something if you choose and allow others to influence you to hesitate.

If at first you don't succeed ...

You will read statistics (and actually, they are not lies) that state only 5% of people will succeed. Almost none of them will do it onrepparttar 124080 first attempt. And this is whererepparttar 124081 95% -- thatrepparttar 124082 doubting Thomases above hold as being normal -- simply give up.

It's not because IT doesn't work, it's not because they couldn't have done it. They just didn't have that one elusive secret, quality or knowledge thatrepparttar 124083 5% do realise they have.

So what'srepparttar 124084 mystical secret thatrepparttar 124085 5% have?

Absolutely nothing more thanrepparttar 124086 fact that they do not give up and they know they shouldn't. If their first ideas don't work, they learn why and go on to try something better. Again and again. They keep learning and they keep trying, for which they require inspiration, motivation and a large measure of tenacity. In my dictionary, failure is merely a sinister word that other people give to a natural learning-by-doing process. It ain't a big deal, it's no more than a knee-scrape inrepparttar 124087 scheme of things. Get back on that bike!

I've tried many things that didn't work for me, but I don't think I have failed, ever.

In fact, I have learned and I am still learning, butrepparttar 124088 two most important things so far are:

=> Finally, I am seeing results --repparttar 124089 ones that matter to me currently, ones that payrepparttar 124090 bills => I am enjoying what I do at last instead of being an opressed wage-slave.

The motivation thus becomes self-fuelling. I am realising a dream.

Pamela Heywood. aims to give inspiration to fellow online business owners, to help you to remain motivated and inspired to keep chasing your dreams. Subscribe to my monthly Inspirational Updates and greet each new month with new ideas and renewed enthusiasm.

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