Every child has an inner timetable for growth—a pattern unique to him. . . . Growth is not steady, forward, upward progression. It is instead a switchback trail; three steps forward, two back, one around bushes, and a few simply standing, before another forward leap Dorothy Corkville Briggs Your Child’s Self-Esteem, (1975).

We each have our own story. Our own life with its ups and downs, with its variety of experiences and problems. But eventually when we look back we can see benefits..

The only thing that slows down your growth and makes it more difficult to achieve your natural potential is You. The way you see yourself.

If you: see yourself as an attachment to another person

allow yourself to be in fear of or in awe of another person

let others rule your life

depend on others

blame others for your feelings and behaviours

hide real you through forced or affected humour

spend time building a façade to hide behind

display defensive behaviour to defend yourself against…….

then you have lost your uniqueness .

Your role is now to serve other person. You are a slave to their dictates. The minute you are drawn to do something that is driven by another’s agenda you are no longer choosing what is naturally best for you. You are choosing what they want you to do. You are accepting that they are ‘expert’ in your life. Another person knows what is best for you.

The bottom line is that you are only person who really knows you. You are only one who has had all experiences that make up you. Others have witnessed and experienced parts of you but you are only one who has seen, heard and lived lot. You are only one with built in self motivation to grow, to develop to achieve your natural potential.

How do you do it? Trust yourself. You are unique. You have a natural ability to move towards your potential. When you trust yourself you naturally flow and are able to move towards what you are supposed to become. When you trust yourself fear disappears. You no longer feel need to protect yourself from this and that. You no longer feel that you ought to, should do or must do in order to meet expectations of others.

Trust enables you to grow and creates energy. Trust enables you to be who you are. A fully functioning natural unique individual.

These are our few thoughts to change your inner state.

You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, Then something has been lost. (Martha Graham)

Good Luck

Graham and Julie www.desktop-meditation.com

Statements affirming your expectation of enjoying process of your chosen activity are next set to focus on. These statements will propel your inner nature towards activity, rather than away from it, which can happen if you believe that activity will be painful or uncomfortable. We all have a natural motivation to do what is pleasurable, and to avoid what is uncomfortable. In with this set of statements, you can include statements that affirm pain of not doing what you are setting out to do. These statements will sound like "I'm really going to enjoy this. I always feel good doing this. This is fun! I always get a charge out of _____________(describe activity)."Between these four set of statements, you will be developing a tremendous motivation for particular activity you are working with. Each one of them will help, but combination of all of them is simply unstoppable! However, one more set of statements (with 4 divisions within set) will take your motivation even further.

This last set of statements will fan flames of your desires. Desire is sometimes seen as another word for motivation, and in truth there are many similarities. This set of statements will have you affirming your desire for 4 things; improvement in general, excellence in yourself and in everything you do, goal you are wanting to attain, and activity that will get you to goal. These statements will be phrased as, "I want ________. I enjoy ___________. _____________ makes me happy. I am _____________ (insert a label applied to those who are what you want to be, or do what you want to do).

Now, to actually use this process, you need to create a list of statements that fill above categories. Write down as many statements as you can possibly think of that fit definitions given. The more statements better.

Don't worry at first about order of statements, just get them down on paper (or typed into your computer if that works better for you). Try to come up with at least 20 statements for each category, or about 100 statements in total.

Once you have your list down, you can proceed in two ways. You can either read list of statements over and over again, or record them and listen to them over and over again. Trying to memorize statements either way works wonderfully! The advantage of reading statements is that you are seeing words at same time you are hearing your voice. The advantage of recording statements and listening to them is that you can review them more often in more situations (such as driving or performing a physical activity).

Something else you can do to make this process more fun and more effective, is to sing statements. Song has a tendency to bypass our outer conscious mind and take messages directly to our inner minds. If there is a particular category of statements that you feel you need to work with more, you can condense overall message into a little sing-song chant and sing it over and over again while you are working on other things. When other people are around and you don't want them to hear your chant, you can sing it internally without using your voice and you'll get most of same benefit.

And most Powerful thing you can do when working with your motivational statements is to imagine what life will be like when you are totally motivated to do right thing at right time. By imaging yourself being type of person you want to be, you are programming your inner mind to a much deeper level than any words can go. Words, pictures, feelings, and a complete sensory experience available only in your imagination together can create an extremely powerful environment for mental programming. And by using this to program motivation you want, you will be able to create change quickly.