3. Tripod. Use one for this type of photography. Set up your shot, get everything in sharp focus, and then shoot. A tripod will keep your camera from moving on you and allow you to get sharp detail you will need.

4. Look for great colors, a flower in full bloom next to a bud, and don’t shoot on windy days. Keep contrast and color in mind at all times and try different compositions each time you take a shot.

Flower photography can be a lot of fun especially if flowers are your own.

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“What do you say to him later?

“I tell him I didn’t like his tone of voice. But he isn’t aware of it.”

“Right. He will be aware of it only if you say it in moment. Most people are not aware of their tone of voice. When you tell him about it later, he really doesn’t know what you are talking about. You need to be responding in moment for him to hear his own voice. You need to be saying something like, ‘ Carl, I hate it when you speak to me in that judgmental, parental voice. I don’t feel like being with you when you talk to me like that.’ You have a much better chance of him understanding what you are saying when he can hear his own voice in moment. And you will feel much better when you speak up for yourself in moment. You will not feel so much like withdrawing when you are not abandoning yourself in face of his judgmental tone.”

While Maria certainly didn’t like Carl’s tone of voice, her distance from him was more due to her self-abandonment than to his behavior. As long as she was being a victim and not taking care of herself in moment, she was feeling badly. It’s easy to blame Carl and think that her feelings are his fault, but her feelings were really result of not taking loving care of herself around Carl.

Marie started to speak up, not blaming Carl but just letting him know her truth. To her great surprise and delight, he finally began to understand what she was saying. He was actually a caring person and just didn’t realize that he was being parental and judgmental. The more Marie responded in moment and spoke her truth, better things got between them. Carl wasn’t perfect, but Marie found that when she spoke up instead of withdrew, they were able to deal with issue in moment. She also discovered that more she took care of herself in moment instead of being a victim – with Carl and with her friends and family - more respect Carl had for her. Some of his judgment toward her was coming from his frustration over her not speaking up for herself with her family and friends!