How to Create a Good Self Image (Part Two)

Written by Craig Lock


Continued from page 1

"The image that concerns most people isrepparttar reflection they see in other people's minds." - Edward De Bono, famous writer onrepparttar 123772 concept of lateral thinking

In other words, I believe that too many people are worried about what others think of them.

Set Definite Goals:

Man is a goal-seeking organism. I think we humans feel happiest, when we are working to achieve something of importance/value. Man's personality is controlled not as much by his past accomplishments and present environment, as by his future goals.

People with no definite goals live an unfocussed life - they often accomplish little of substance. An unfocussed life is a wasted life, and a wasted life is most open to a a low self image. If you have no goal, where will you focus your abilities? How will you direct your life? Crystallise your goals...then action them. I find that having a meaning and purpose in my life , ie. a LIFE MISSION is most fulfilling and satisfying.

GOALS BRING SUCCESS Setting and then achieving them. They give structure and a plan to our lives, no more than that. However, they also specify what accomplishments are important to us - by giving us a purpose, a reason for being. Likerepparttar 123773 ship navigating a course byrepparttar 123774 stars, goals guide us downrepparttar 123775 river of life - checkpoints to "tick off" to keep us on track. So write down your daily goals. Numerous studies have shown that man uses only 10% of his abilities throughout his lifetime and only 5% ofrepparttar 123776 population have any written goals*.

So then, WHAT HOPE DO THEY HAVE OF EVER ACHIEVING THEM? * Studies have shown that these 5% arerepparttar 123777 high achievers and "go-getters" of societies.

SPEAK POSITIVE WORDS Always thinkrepparttar 123778 best of others. We all have disappointments, but never allow disappointments to trigger negative words of resentment and anger. Words that lead to self pity and depression.

EXERCISE POSITIVE FAITH

NB: Have Faith in yourself, but especially in God, The Universe, a Higher Power.

The Bible said: "As I think, I behave." Don't ask me where to find it though? (could some "Bible-basher" please let me know where I found that quotation).

"How you see yourself is more important than how other people see you." ASK YOURSELF:

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1. What do I do well? What do I do poorly? 2. What do I like most about What do I like least myself? about myself?

3. Of which results/achievements Which areas of my life am I most proud? needrepparttar 123779 most attention?

* The more you add torepparttar 123780 left hand side ofrepparttar 123781 ledger,repparttar 123782 more you will outweighrepparttar 123783 negatives you have accumulated overrepparttar 123784 years. Instead of being your own worst enemy, you can be your own best friend. You're bound to have more onrepparttar 123785 left hand side than onrepparttar 123786 right.

A word to end off this chapter...

"Fall in love with yourself and be sure of a life-long romance."

I LOVE MYSELF*

(thanks for sending to me, Kaye - you are a very special person) * please excuse "caps" - I'm not shouting, but am just too "lazy" to retype!).

I LOVE MYSELF THE WAY I AM THERE'S NOTHING I NEED TO CHANGE I WILL ALWAYS BE THE PERFECT ME THERE IS NOTHING TO RE-ARRANGE I AM BEAUTIFUL AND CAPABLE OF BEING THE BEST ME I CAN AND I LOVE MYSELF JUST THE WAY I AM

I LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE THERE IS NOTHING YOU NEED TO DO WHEN I FEEL THE LOVE INSIDE MYSELF IT IS EASY TO LOVE YOU BEHIND YOUR FEARS YOUR RADIANT HUES I SEE YOUR SHINING STAR AND I LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.

I LOVE THE WORLD THE WAY IT IS 'CAUSE I CAN CLEARLY SEE THAT ALL THE THINGS I JUDGE ARE DONE BY PEOPLE JUST LIKE ME SO TILL THE BIRTH OF PEACE ON EARTH THAT ONLY LOVE CAN BRING I'LL HELP THAT GROW BY LOVING EVERYTHING.

I LOVE MYSELF THE WAY I AM AND STILL I WANT TO GROW THE CHANGE OUTSIDE CAN ONLY COME WHEN DEEP INSIDE I KNOW I'M BEAUTIFUL AND CAPABLE OF BEING THE BEST ME I CAN I LOVE MYSELF JUST THE WAY I AM.

This extract is from Craig's first published book HANDBOOK TO SURVIVE - a collection of writings on various subjects to help every man or woman survive in a rapidly changing, uncertain world. To order HANDBOOK today, click on: http://www.novelty-gift.com/


What Are YOU Making It Mean?

Written by Helaine Iris


Continued from page 1

Here are some common examples of how we create needless pain for ourselves.

I was talking with a client who was telling me about her boyfriend not wanting to drive with her to pick up a friend atrepparttar airport. She made it mean that he didn’t wantrepparttar 123771 friend to come at all.

Another client was upset because her friend cancelled a lunch date without apparent reason. She made it meanrepparttar 123772 friend didn’t like her.

My friend flew into a panic attack because his boss called him intorepparttar 123773 office inrepparttar 123774 middle ofrepparttar 123775 workday. He was convinced he was about to be fired.

What do you make things mean in your life? Do you automatically jump torepparttar 123776 “conclusion” that provesrepparttar 123777 worst about yourself? Here are some tips for staying inrepparttar 123778 present moment when confronted with a potentially “button pushing” situation.

1. When faced with an emotional reaction get inrepparttar 123779 habit of asking yourself, “What am I making this mean”? Stoprepparttar 123780 freight train of your thoughts and look for another option.

2. Connect with reality. Offer yourselfrepparttar 123781 gift of truth. Is it true that “X “ will happen? Can I really know what I’m perceiving and concluding isrepparttar 123782 only possibility?

3. Consider shifting from a limited view of yourself. Focus on what’s positive, larger and perhaps more true about you. Let go ofrepparttar 123783 negative self-talk.

Once you eliminaterepparttar 123784 endless mind loops of fear and self-doubt that come from second-guessing, from making meaning withoutrepparttar 123785 facts you free up your energy. Can you imagine how this could improve your relationships? How much more peaceful your world could be?

What would you rather be doing with your time? Personally, I’d rather have that quality weekend time with my husband.

It’s your life…imaginerepparttar 123786 possibilities!



**************************************** Helaine Iris is a Certified Life Coach She works with individuals, entrepreneurs, professionals, and leaders who want more out of life. People, who want to lead successful, balanced lives filled with love, passion and purpose. Are you ready to take a step that could change your life? For a complimentary session visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com




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