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I had tried to encourage Anne to leave home and be her own woman. As we talked after dinner, woman began to share a story with Anne. The woman told Anne: “Once there was an eaglet who grew up with ducks. When eaglet grew strong wings to fly, mother duck told eaglet, ‘You hatched with ducks but you are not a duck. You are an eagle. Eagles don’t walk, they fly. So fly away to be with eagles...’ The eaglet replied, ‘No, I am not an eagle. I am a duck. I cannot fly.’ The mother duck told eagle, ‘Yes, you are an eagle. You were hatched by a duck but you are an eagle. You can fly.’ The eaglet was so afraid to try it replied, ‘No, I cannot fly. I am a duck—if I try to fly, I will fall.’
“The mother duck told eaglet, ‘You are an eagle. You don’t belong here. Fly and be with your own kind and you will be much happier. Try, please try. Eagles fly, they don’t walk. You are an eagle. You can fly.’ The eagle thought for a minute. It began to stretch and flap its wings. It bounced around a little, then it jumped up and flew. As it lifted off ground it realized it could fly and began to soar in air.”
We all sat and listened to this emotional story. I know I wept and so did Anne. I cared about Anne so much. I wanted her to find happiness. Not long after and with a little encouragement and support, Anne moved out of her parents’ basement. She found her own apartment and a full-time job at a local hotel. She began to date and met a man who cared for her. Although it was difficult and frightening at first, Anne tried and when she did, she soared.
This real-life example shows that we can all find happiness and success if we choose to make choices and do things that bring us happiness and success. Anne only found success when she left her comfort zone and tried. In your love life, only way to experience true failure is if you don’t try, if you give up or try to hide behind excuses and justifications.
The eaglet eventually flew with eagles instead of walking with ducks. This means, for example in relationship, you can find love with your appropriate mate—not just any man or woman for sake of having a lover. You can live your potential. But settling for unhealthy and mediocre relationships is not a way to find happiness. You can achieve your true potential in all things if do your part.
You can tell from Anne’s story that despite her upbringing and life experiences, she was able to find happiness by making choices that brought her happiness. When Anne left her comfort zone (like eagle leaving ducks), she reached her potential. Do you make choices that bring you stress and disappointments? Do you settle for relationships that bring you misery? What is your emotional well-being worth to you? Decide kind of life and relationships you want. Then you will know what you need to do.
Ernest Quansah is a soulmate relationship expert who helps men and women find their true love and create the relationship of their dreams. He is the author of How to Identify Your Soulmate, a love relationship advice manual designed to help people find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships. If you will like more information about his services, please visit http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com