At same time you are encouraging and accepting difference between your fraternal twin and her brother, accentuate similarities. There is no doubt your twins will share a special bond, if for no other reason than that they are growing up with a sibling their same age. The bond that fraternal twins share can be source of love and support throughout their lives, and you would hate to destroy that by being overeager to make them lead different lives.

Dressing Your Twins Alike

When they are little, it probably matters very little what you dress your twins in. But when your fraternal twin starts to become conscious of fact that she is different than most people, you will need to be especially sensitive to her needs with regards to establishing her individual identity. Simply put, if your children like being dressed same, do it; if they don't, do them and yourself favor of letting them wear different clothes.

In end, as is case with all children, there is no clear cut answer when it comes to best way to raise your twins. Learn everything you can from those who have been there and done that, but trust your parental intuition and do what's best for your kids. Finally, remember that "the most important work you will ever do will be within walls of your own home."

But what about “messy diaper” or “nursing”? Prizes for baby shower games can be anything you can think of, but if you are going to spend money on them, you should try to have something your guests will want to use. Baby shower favors should also be something your guests will use as well as being gender neutral. Some baby shower favor ideas include personalized lollipops or candy tins, baby themed cookies, or ever popular bubble gum cigars.

If you do not know sex of baby yet you can purchase baby shower favors in both pink and blue. Then guests choose color based on what they think sex of baby will be. It might be fun to do a tally at end of baby shower just to see how many of guests think it will be a boy and how many think it will be a girl!

Food is also an important part of a couples baby shower. Though appetizers and finger sandwiches may be appropriate for a regular shower you may want some heartier fare for couples baby shower. By adding more substantial items to your menu you will be catering (so to speak) to your male guests’ larger appetites.

One suggestion for a nice keepsake for mom and dad-to-be. Videotape wishes and tips for them. Ask willing guests to record a short greeting for new parents (keeping it proper so Junior can watch it in years to come).

Also, don't forget to send couples baby shower invitations.